Digital Detox Rediscovering You VOE Ep 20

Have you in the past or are currently spending too much of your valuable

time on social media, your cell phone, laptop, or binge watching Netflix? If you answer is yes to

any of these you may want to consider a digital detox (this is a cleansing of your mind from

technology). On this week’s show I’m going to step you through how to achieve a digital detox.

This can help you reconnect with those around you and rediscover mindfulness in your life.

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With the Holiday season upon us it is important that we give our full attention to the ones we

love. Your time and attention is one of the most valuable gifts you can give. In the last couple of

months I find myself in conversations with friends who feel like “life is going by so fast”. My

theory for feeling this way is that technology is stealing our time and making us feel anxious.

Not to worry, I am here to guide you through a digital detox, to help you slow down a little bit so

you can “Rediscover You”.

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspecte. I like to draw fron the word of God to

receive encouragement and wisdom. I look to scripture for guidance in how to increase my

faith, to make it bigger than my fears and strengthen my confidence.

Scripture tells us in Philippians 4:6 “ Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and

supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.  And the peace of God,

which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Additionally, Isaiah 40:31 says, “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They

will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint.”

We should always remember that God’s power and strength will never diminish. He is never too

tired or too busy to help and listen to us. His power is our source of confidence. So, when you

experience soul-crushing anxiety, and you can’t take another step, and your plans aren’t working

out - just remember this, you can call on God and He will renew your strength and give you fresh

faith.

As a Technologist I have to work extra hard to put the phone down and get off the computer so I

can rest my eyes and my brain. I strive to educate myself, so I conducted research in this area to

understand why we are suspectable to becoming hooked or additcted to technology. It all starts

in our head; there are two chemicals that make our body and brain react:

1. Dompamine: Dopamine was "discovered" in 1958 by Arvid Carlsson and Nils-Ake

Hillarp at the National Heart Institute of Sweden. Dopamine is created in various parts of

the brain and is critical in all sorts of brain functions, including thinking,

moving, sleeping, mood, attention, motivation, seeking and reward.

2. Cortisol: Think of cortisol as nature’s built-in alarm system. It’s your body’s main

stress hormone. It works with certain parts of your brain to control your mood,

motivation, and fear.

David Greenfield, Ph.D., founder of the Center for Internet and Technology Addiction. says

that “Smartphones put us in an ever-increasing state of hyper-vigilance, where we’re always

feeling compelled to check our calls, texts, social media alerts, and email. This keeps the

adrenals constantly activated and cortisol levels elevated.”

Susan Weinschenk Ph.D. wrote an article titled, “Why We're All Addicted to Texts, Twitter

and Google” and explains Dopamine makes you addicted to seeking information in an endless

loop. In this article, she asks the following questions:

Do you ever feel like you are addicted to email or twitter or texting?

Do you find it difficult to ignore your email if you see that there are messages in your

inbox?

Do you think that if you could ignore your incoming email or messages or smartphone

buzzing you might actually be able to get something done at work?

She goes on to state - the alluring draw of the Internet and our smartphones alerts,

beeps, buzzes, or notifications has us consumed and distracted.

These questions really got my attention, because I found myself answering YES. So I am taking

the digital detox challenge this holiday season. I want to get back to “Rediscovering Me” and I

want to encourage you to take the challenge with me and “Rediscover You”.

Does a digital detox seem daunting? Consider instituting the following four habits to prepare for

a full blown digital detox to “Rediscover You”:

1. Remove distractions: Use the four quadrant theory—your four quandrants are

family, friends, health, and work. Anything that is not essential to your four quadrants should be

removed. That means no alerts, beeps, buzzes, or notifications of any kind, perhaps with the

exception of voicemails for emergencies.

2. Don't glamorize busyness: "I'm so busy!" are really just our attempts to avoid making hard

choices about how we live our lives. Staying busy is easier than taking time to pursue what

would really make us happy. As a Technologist, I know first hand how the Internet makes it so

easy to be "busy" indefinitely. So be careful not to glamorize busyness. By doing so, you can

start to think more clearly about how you are choosing to spend your time.

3. Always ask "why" when you pull out your phone: Sure, our smartphones are handy tools to

find answers, keep in touch with friends, or even to check the time. But often, more often than

we think, we use our phones to distract, to avoid, or to ignore whatever is happening right in

front of us. Keeping us disconnected and distractred those around us.

4. Lastly, periodically, fast from electronics or have a digital detox: You heard me! Conduct

a “fast” from your digital devices. Spend a weekend or an entire week durig the holiday season

with no electronic devices. It might feel scary at first, but it is an excellent opportunity to

reconnect with ourselves and others.

Are your ready to take on a digital detox?

Mark Twain said, “The secret to getting ahead is getting started”.

So, let’s get started!

But before I do let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out loud to myself

every morning gets me excited and keeps moving forward with my personal goal of growing

Voices of Encouragement to empower all women.

AFFIRMATION

I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed this position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator He chose this career for

me

So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believe extreme success if our only fate

And as break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

Know idea is what you have

Cause I’m supercharged I’m highly powered

I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

I read that in this digital world, it’s easy to find yourself logged in, online, posting, commenting,

and responding almost every minute of every day. Whether it’s out of necessity or just because

you don’t want to miss out on anything that’s going on (FOMO – fear of missing out), you can

find yourself feeling digitally overloaded. Do you want to take a break from all the emails, texts,

messages, comments, posts, and updates, but you do not know where to start? Its all good, we’re

about to explore the steps to digital freedom: you can do this if you plan, unplug, and make the

most of your time… then, you can ease back into the digital on your terms.

How to do a Digital Detox from wikihow.com

Motivate yourself. Deciding to do a digital detox can be a big decision. You may worry about

what you’ll miss by logging out. You might even wonder what you’ll do with your time. You

can do a digital detox if you remind yourself of all the good reasons why you should take this

time to log off and unplug.

 Make a list of three to five things you want to try to get done during your detox

time. For instance, you might write that you want to work in your garden, read a

good book, organize your closets, or catch up with old friends.

 Remind yourself of the benefits of the detox. For example, tell yourself, “I’ll feel

more relaxed, in tune with myself, and in tune with my family and friends.”

 Tell yourself that the detox will give you a break from some of the information

overload you may be feeling.

Choose when to detox. Although you may want to start your digital detox right now,

you should think about the timing of your detox first. Deciding to digitally disconnect

during peak work time-frames or around exams time if you are in school may not be

practical. Choose a time when you have fewer responsibilities and when there will be

less consequences for missing a message or two.

 Think about having your detox over a weekend, school break, or holiday;

you are less likely to receive important messages during those times.

 Look at your calendar and pick a time when you don’t have any upcoming

deadlines or important events; this way you won’t miss updates about

them.

Think through the logistics. You may not realize all the ways in which you

depend on your smartphone and other devices in your day-to-day life. For

instance, if you use your phone as an alarm, do you have an alarm clock you can

use while you detox? If you want to listen to music during the detox, do you have a

radio? If you use your phone or computer for driving directions, do you have maps

so you won't get lost? Before your detox, try to note all the different ways in which

you rely on your devices and think of other ways to meet your needs.

 You may also need to think about how you will do this if your family is not

participating in the detox. What will you do if everyone is watching TV? Do you

have a digital-free area where you can retreat to read or work on a craft project?

How will you fill your time and avoid the temptation when other people are using

their devices?

Decide how long to detox. In general, a digital detox will last about one to two

days. This gives you time to connect with your friends and family and do some of the

things you’ve been meaning to do. But, if you have a lot of obligations, this might be too

long. Deciding how long to detox will help you plan for it and anticipate any issues that

may come up during your detox time.

 Consider your responsibilities and obligations. How long can you digitally detox

without getting behind in your work?

 Think about people that depend on you. Ask yourself if there is anything you would

need to do online for them during this time.

Give advance notice. If you are including work or school in your digital detox, you may

need to let others know what you are doing. This way they can let you know what’s

going on and you won’t miss messages about major deadlines or other important

information.

 Do you have a landline so that someone can call and reach you in case of an

emergency? You might also want to let family members know that it's okay to

show up unannounced if there is an emergency.

 Ask someone to contact you with important messages if your digital detox is going

to last more than 12 hours. For instance, say something like, “Could you call me

on my landline if we have a schedule update at work?”

 If you primarily communicate with people via text, email, or messaging, you may

want to let them know what’s going on.

Log out of social networks. Nothing can ruin a digital detox or any peaceful time like

an electronic device that’s beeping, binging, and chirping every two minutes. Staying

logged in will make it easy for you to quickly turn on your device, especially if you have

widgets, and check your social networking updates. Logging out and turning off all

notifications for social media can help you stick with your detox.

 You don’t need to disable your account, but you can log out of the app on your

device; you can log back in once your digital detox is over.

 Make sure you know your login information before you log out of the app.

 Turn off your alerts and notifications if you can’t or don’t want to log out of your

apps.

Put your electronic devices out of reach. When your device is right by your side you

may be tempted to check it to make sure you aren’t missing anything. Keeping your

phone, tablet, or laptop at a distance will make it easier for you to do a digital detox.

 Remember the adage “out of sight, out of mind.”; put your device in a closet,

drawer, or somewhere out of sight.

 If you need to, ask a family member or close friend to keep your device for you

during your digital detox.

Help someone. One great way to make the most of your digital detox is to spend some

of your time doing something to help someone else. It doesn’t have to be a big thing like

repainting their house, but you can take an hour or two to do something that benefits

someone else.

 Volunteer for a cause or organization that you support or attend a charitable event

in your neighborhood.

 Offer to go grocery shopping for your dad, walk your neighbor’s dog, or help your

friend wash her car.

Meditate and relax. During a digital detox is a great time to practice relaxation techniques and

calming strategies. When your detox is over, these strategies will help you release stress and

tension when you begin to feel digital overload or stress in general.

 Try spending just five to 10 minutes meditating. Get comfortable and try to focus on your

breathing. If you find your thoughts drifting, gently bring them back to your breathing.

 Practice deep breathing techniques. Slowly inhale into your belly, hold it, and then slowly

exhale. Repeat these steps for a few breaths.

Learn something new. One of the challenges of doing a digital detox is boredom. You

may be so used to being online that you don’t know what to do with yourself. Why not

use your time during your digital detox to try a new activity or learn a new skill?

 Read a book or article about a topic that interests you; you can even go to the

library to look at a hard copy instead of a digital one.

 Take a class or lesson to learn a new skill or talent; for instance, take a

gymnastics class or sign up for foreign language lessons.

Socialize with loved ones. It can be easy to let social networking and messaging take

the place of face-to-face or even phone interaction. You can make the most of your

digital detox by spending at least some of your time with your family and friends. You

can use this time to catch up, talk, or just hang out.

 Give them your undivided attention when you’re together. You don’t have your

electronic device distracting you, so look them in the eyes and show them you’re

listening.

 Invite them somewhere or accept their invitations to go out; catch a movie, grab

some coffee, or play some basketball.

Log in one app at a time. Ease yourself back into the digital world. This way you won’t

become overwhelmed by the information and entertainment. It will also give you the

opportunity to think about which social networks, apps, and games and actually want

and need to use.

 Start by logging back into your primary email account. Prioritize your messages

and respond to those you need to.

 Delete any messages that aren’t important and take a few minutes to unsubscribe

to any newsletters or updates you don’t really need.

Limit yourself. After your detox, try setting limits for your digital time. This way you can

avoid getting caught up in the never-ending cycle of emails, alerts, updates, and posts.

 Try checking and responding to emails only in the morning (between the hours of

9 and 10am, for instance) and at the end of the day (from 4:30 to 5pm).

 Turn your notifications off on social media apps and sites; this way you won’t be

tempted to check every time your electronic device beeps.

 Limit the time you spend on social networking sites; for example, you might set a

limit of 15 minutes for being on Twitter or Snapchat.

Do a mini detox. You will get the most benefit out of your digital detox if you make it

something that you do more than once. You don’t have to do a full detox for a day or

more. Doing a mini detox, even for just an hour or two, might help you briefly recharge

and relax.

 Consider the hour before bed as a non-digital time; put your electronic devices on

vibrate and turn any non-essential alerts off.

 Have a regular weekend detox for a few hours; for example, you might want to

spend every Sunday morning free of your electronics.

Well there you have it – practical recommendations to assist you in conducting a

digital detox in order to “Rediscover You”!

Thanks so much for listening in.

If you have enjoyed our time together please share this podcast, or tell a friend about it.

Mark your calendars for the upcoming Voices of Encouragements Women’s

Empowerment Workshop scheduled for Saturday, January 26, 2019. For more

information email me at Voemetoday@gmail.com.

You can learn more about True conversations network at: www.true-conversations.com

and more about Voices of Encouragement at: www.voicesofencouragment.com.

Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive

Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:1 “Walk worthy of the calling with which you were you called.”

Power of Positivity VOE Episode 19

Hi and welcome back to “A Woman’s Heart” podcast show, on the True

Conversations Network. I’m your host Edna Howard, founder of Voices of

Encouragement, an organization designed to empower women.

You can learn more about True conversations network at:

www.true-conversations.com and more about Voices of Encouragement at

www.voicesofencouragement.com/

I’m so excited you decided to take the time out of your busy schedule to

listen to another empowering message. Today, I am going to talk with you

about “The Power of Positive Thinking. Think of me as your Chief

Encouragement Officer for the next few minutes, as I share with you

positive information and tools to help you tap the power within you to

promote positive thinking.

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspective. The first thing I

do is to look to scripture for guidance and wisdom on how to think, act and

be.

Psalm 19:14 “May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my

heart be pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.”

Proverbs 23:7 “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he"

So, you might ask what does it mean as a man thinketh in his heart so is

he? Well the truth is, each person's thinking and core identity is determined

by and reflects the conditions of their heart.

Said differently, what you think about you bring about – so you should think

about some great stuff.

And from a more philosophical perspective: Mahatma Gandhi said

“A man (woman) is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he

becomes”

Here’s a question for you: Did you know that our thoughts determine the

quality of our lives?

The podcast show today is about thinking positive but first let me set

the stage by talking to you about attitude: I’ve got three questions to get

you thinking. Put me on pause and grab a piece of paper and a pen, cause

you’re going to want to write these downs.

1. Do you have a positive mental attitude?

2. Is your attitude positive or negative the majority of the day?

3. In what ways could you be sabotaging your positive mental

attitude?

These thought provoking questions are designed to help you assess your

attitude; is it more positive or negative? Your attitude is your window to the

world.

So, if you have a positive attitude you will see the good and positive but if

your attitude is negative (stinking thinking) then how you operate and

engage with other people is going to be negative.

Think of your attitude as the mental filter through which you experience the

world around you.

Something I read in a book titled, “Attitude is Everything” written by Jeff

Keller, he says “some people see the world through the filter of optimism

(the glass being half full) while others see life though a filter of pessimism

(the glass being half empty).

He gives some examples to explain the difference between a positive and

negative attitude:

 The person with the negative attitude thinks “I CAN’T”

 The person with the positive attitude thinks “I CAN”

 The person with the negative attitude dwells on problems

 The person with the positive attitude concentrates on solutions

 The person with the negative attitude finds fault with others

 The person with the positive attitude looks for the good in

others

 The person with the negative focuses on what’s missing

 The person with the positive attitude counts his or her blessings

So… are you more of a optimist or a pessimist?

Remember our “Attitudes are a secret power working 24 hours a day,

for good or bad” – So… what’s your attitude going to be?

One thing I know for sure is if you are complaining you’re slowly developing

a negative attitude. It starts small… and then before you know it, you’ll find

yourself swimming in negativity. Personally, I think that the number one joy

stealer is complaining. Why? Because it causes you to focus on all the

negative things that are going on in your life - and that my friend, will most

certainly affect your attitude.

I would like to share with you a couple of gold nuggets a good friend of

mine Nikea Ray shared with me; just a little something to help you

remember not to complain. You can say this to yourself when you feel a

negative attitude developing in your spirit - It simply says:

“I choose to be thankful for everything that comes my way. I realize

that complaining is draining. Complaining is counterproductive and

will not get me anywhere I’m trying to go. I won’t complain. I will look

at every situation and find a lesson in it. I will look at every situation

and find a blessing in it. My complaining days are over.”

So, I encourage you to choose the right mental attitude. Recognize in

yourself whether you have a positive or negative attitude.

And from a faith perspective You can speak words that please God: Psalm

19:14 “May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be

pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.”

Here’s an example of a prayer requesting God’s assistance to help you

improve your attitude and thoughts:

“Lord, help me to not think negative thoughts or say critical words

about anyone. Forgive me for any time I have done that, for I know it

does not please You. Help me to be careful about the words I speak

so that I won’t say anything that hurts someone. Help me to treat

others with kindness, patience, and love. Enable me to build people

up and not tear them down. I know that words matter and You have

said in your Word that “Those who guide their lips preserve their

lives” (Proverbs 13:3). Teach me to think before I speak so that I say

words that are honest and caring and sensitive.”

Now that you understand a little more about mental attitude, let me share

with you the power of thinking positive: The topics I will review are:

 What is positive thinking?

 Motivational Channels to positive thinking,

 And how positive thinking can enhance your life?

Mark Twain said, “The secret to getting ahead is getting started”

So, let’s get started.

But before I do let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out

loud to myself every morning gets me excited and keeps moving forward

with my personal goal of growing Voices of Encouragement to empower all

women.

AFFIRMATION

I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed my position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator He

chose this career for me

So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are

on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believing extreme success is our only fate

And as we break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

No idea is what you have, cause I’m super charged I’m highly

powered I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

What is positive thinking? The positive inner voice (avoiding the

chatterbox)

Making a conscious deliberate effort to continually believe in your abilities.

What are the motivational channels to positive thinking?

1. Books

2. Music

3. Places

4. Motivational Tapes

5. Workshop/conferences

6. PODCAST

7. Inspirational Movies

How positive thinking can improve your life:

The use of positive thinking can create a powerful life for you: There are a

few things you need to be aware of:

1. Realize that the only person that can make you happy is YOU!

2. Heighten your level of awareness – hang out with eagles so you can

fly high (those who are on the move and can motivate you to get on

the move.

3. Choose power over pain.

I have a little exercise I want you to do. OK, image if you will a chart: I’ll

call it the “Pain to Power Chart”

Take out a piece a paper and draw a line down the middle put an arrow

on each side and now write PAIN on the left side and POWER on the

right side

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

PAIN (most of us can place ourselves somewhere in the middle) POWER

OK – Now let me give you some pain to power vocabulary and you can use

the chart to place the pain vocab on the left side of the page and power

vocab on the right side of the page.

Changing your vocabulary: Pain-to-Power Vocabulary

PAIN POWER

I can’t ---------------------------------------------------------------------I won’t

I should ------------------------------------------------------------------I could

It’s not my fault ---------------------------------------------------------I’m totally

responsible

It’s a problem ---------------------------------------------------------- It’s an

opportunity

Life is a struggle ------------------------------------------------------ Life is an

adventure

Now you have a tool to use when deciding on vocabulary to help you think

more positive.

Next let’s talk about…

How can you activate your positive thinking?

 You make a choice whether you will be in control of your life or if life

will control you. Said differently, you can choose to seize the day or

let the day seize you.

 Your attitude determines whether you are a success or a failure at

any task (if you think you CAN you CAN and if you think you CAN’T

your right)

 Use every experience as an opportunity.

Make a commitment to think positive:

 Draw from the higher power from within (God) and make a

commitment today to think positive

 Make your life a best seller and become the most positive person

you know

 Happiness is a journey not a destination

Positive thoughts Lead to Enthusiasm:

 Enthusiasm derives from the two Greek words En Theos, meaning

“inspired by God”; our lives need to be inspired, infused, filled

afresh with Gods goodness every day.

 You may not have somebody patting you on the back and

cheering you on – and your day may not be filled with

extraordinary events, but you can still give it everything you got

with enthusiasm and be an example for others.

I would like to recommend a Day-To-Day Action Plan for your

consideration:

1. Fill the first 10 minutes to an hour of your day with inspiration:

books (devotionals), spend time with God, motivational music,

and motivational YouTube or tapes (I really suggest not

listening to negative news and going on Facebook)

2. Don’t hang out around TOXIC negative people. (They will sap

your energy). Have I ever shared with you the 30, 15, 10, 5, 1

minute people theory? Here it goes…

The 30, 15, 10 minute people: these are the inspirational

people you want to be around (these folks talk about events not

people, you feel good and empowered just to being in their

space- they lift you up! You feel amazing when you leave their

presence). Then there are the 5 and 1-minute people (these are

the folks who make you feel down and who never really have

anything good to say about others and they make you feel bad

about yourself and situations. (These folks are the ones you

must say hi to and keep it moving because you know they don’t

have anything good to say to you or about others.)

3. Don’t give your attention to your immediate disasters (look to a

positive future/Hold the VISION).

4. Lose the Fear of What other people think about YOU!! This is

such a big one – if your fear of what people think about you is

keeping you from taking bold strokes in the world, then you are

allowing the fear of what others think of you control your life.

News flash! You serve God not man. Remember: No weapon

formed against you will prosper, you are more than a conquer,

and greater is He who lives in you then He that is in the world.

Thanks so much for listening in.

If you have enjoyed our time together please share this podcast, or tell a

friend about it. Mark your calendars for the upcoming Voices of

Encouragement Women’s Empowerment Workshop, scheduled for

Saturday, January 26, 2019. For more information email me at:

Voemetoday@gmail.com.

Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive

Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:1 “Walk worthy of the calling

with which you were called”

Change Your Mind Change Your Life VOE Episode 18

We will explore together the importance of changing your thinking to improve and change your life. You are probably wondering “Why Should I change my Thinking?” My answer to you is simply because good thinking can solve problems, create opportunities, and take you to a whole new level both personally and professionally. Simply put, it can change your life. Do you want to master the process of good thinking? Do you want to be a better thinker tomorrow than you are today?

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Hi and welcome back to “A Woman’s Heart” podcast show, on the TRUE Conversations

Network, I’m your host Edna Howard, Founder of Voices of Encouragement, an

organization designed to empower women.

You can learn more about True conversations network at www.true-conversations.com

and more about Voices of Encouragement at www.voicesofencouragment.com.

Thank you for joining me to hear another empowering message. Think of me as your

Chief Encouragement Officer, as we explore together the importance of changing your

thinking to improve and change your life. You are probably wondering “Why Should I

change my Thinking?” My answer to you is simply because good thinking can solve

problems, create opportunities, and take you to a whole new level both personally and

professionally. Simply put, it can change your life. Do you want to master the process

of good thinking? Do you want to be a better thinker tomorrow than you are today? If

your answer to these questions is yes, then you need to engage in an ongoing process

that improves your thinking. On this week’s show, my goal is to provide you with bible

guidance and practical advice to help you develop habits to change your thinking that

can change your life.

There are many different ways we can become better thinkers, for example - New York

Best Selling Author John Maxwell’s book “How Successful People Think” gives practical

advice and tools on how to become a better thinker. In his book eleven chapters

focuses on one type of thinking, and contain a case study, critical thinking questions, a

journal section, and an action place of steps to help the reader create a personalized

plan. Some key points that resonated with me from when I read the book:

 Expose yourself to good input

 Expose yourself to good thinkers

 Choose to think good thoughts

 Act on your good thoughts

 Use your emotions to create more good thoughts

From a personal perspective I believe it’s about controlling your thoughts and managing

your emotions. So, if there are things occurring in your life that make you wonder how

did I get here and why are these negative things occurring? I encourage you to find a

quiet place and begin to think deep thoughts about what it is you’re thinking about and

why you may be thinking these thoughts. Are you ready to improve your thinking and

engage in positive self-talk so you can change your life?

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspective; delving into God’s Word for

encouragement and wisdom. I look to scripture for guidance in how to increase my

faith, to make it bigger than my fears and strengthen my confidence.

Scripture tells us that in Proverbs 23:7 the “As a man thinks in his heart so is he” And

In Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. And lastly, I

am reminded of the scripture: Romans 12:2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this

world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test

and approve what God’s will is – His good, pleasing and perfect will.”

We should always remember that God’s power and strength will never diminish. He is

never too tired or too busy to listen and help us. His power is our source of confidence.

So, when things happen and we become discourage, remember to put your thinking in

check to ensure that your perspective is clear and not cloudy. We have the ability to

create our own reality with our thinking, so we need to think good thoughts. I encourage

you not to let self-doubt and unworthiness taint your spirit. We have all the power in

Christ Jesus and He is able to do exceedingly and abundantly all that we ask and think.

And when He is ready He will open doors no one can close.

This reminds me of one of Ralph Waldo Emerson quotes: “Life consist of what a man

is thinking about all day”

And little-known Englishman James Allen, who wrote a small book called “As a Man

Thinketh” said, “You are today where your thoughts have brought you. You will be

tomorrow where your thoughts take you.”

Taking control of your thought life requires vigilance, dedication, and commitment. It is

your responsibility to take control of your thinking to manifest your dreams and goals to

come to fruition.

Before we get started, put me on pause and grab a piece of paper and a pen; I have

some questions I need to ask you, and may want to write these down for further

reflection:

1. When spending time alone do you think good thoughts?

2. When spending time with others do you think good thoughts?

3. Do you think creative thoughts about your future?

4. Do you want to change the way you think?

These thought-provoking questions are designed to help you gauge how you think and

where you might need some work.

One of my favorite quotes is from Mark Twain:

“The secret to getting ahead is getting started”.

So, let’s get started!

But before I do, let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out loud to

myself every morning gets me motivated and keeps me moving forward with my

personal goal of growing Voices of Encouragement to empower all women

AFFIRMATION

I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed this position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator He chose this

career for me

So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believe extreme success if our only fate

And as break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

Know idea is what you have

Cause I’m supercharged I’m highly powered

I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

Now you’re probably wondering why I decided to focus on the topic “how we think”. The

mission of Voices of Encouragement is to empower women, to help them realize their

dreams, reach their goals, and live their best life. And as much as I want to see yours

and millions of women’s dreams and goals materialize, you’ve got have the right

mindset and positive thoughts to create your own reality from the thoughts you think

because what you think about you bring about.

Good thinkers solve problems, they never lack ideas, and they always have hope for a

better future. Good thinkers rarely find themselves at the mercy of those who out think

them and take advantage of them or try to deceive them.

GOOD THINKER

John Maxwell reminds us that we should remember to expose ourselves to good input,

expose ourselves to good thinkers, choose to think good thoughts, act on your good

thoughts, and use your emotions to create more good thoughts. So, in the remainder of

today’s podcast I will share with you, what to expect when you start working on

improving your thinking, how you can become a better thinker and why changing your

thinking is in your best interest:

Today I will review:

 WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN CHANGING YOUR THINKING

 HOW TO BECOME A BETTER THINKER

 HOW TO PUT YOURSELF IN RIGHT PLACE TO THINK

WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN CHANGING YOUR THINKING

1. Changed thinking is not automatic: Keep in mind changing the way you think

is not automatic. If you want to become a better thinker, you need to work at it –

and once you begin to become a better thinker, the good ideas keep coming. In

fact, the amount of good thinking you can do at any time depends primarily on

the amount of good thinking you are already doing.

2. Changing your thought process takes work: The only people who believe

thinking is easy are those who don’t habitually engage in it. The reality is

thinking is hard work and taking the path of least resistance will not be in your

best interest, You must consistently engage your mind and use the appropriate

tools to help you improve the way you think.

3. Your mind and life if worth making the investment to change the way you

think: American self-help author, known best for his book “Think and Grow

Rich” Napoleon Hill wrote, “More gold has been mined from the thoughts of man

than has ever been taken from the earth.” When you take time to learn how to

change your thinking and become a better thinker, you are investing in yourself.

Gold mines tap out. Stock markets crash. Real estate investments can go sour.

But a human mind with the ability to think well is like a diamond mine that never

runs out. It’s priceless.

HOW TO BECOME A BETTER THINKER: Do you want to master the process of good

thinking? Do you want to be a better thinker tomorrow than you are today? Then you

need to engage in an ongoing process that improves your thinking.

1. Expose yourself to good input: Good thinkers always prime the pumps for

good ideas. They always look for things to get the thinking process started,

because what you put in always impacts what comes out. Read books, review

magazines, listen to podcast or tapes, and spend time with good thinkers. And

when something intrigues you—whether it’s someone else’s idea or the seed of

an idea that you’ve come up with yourself – keep it in front of you. Put it in

writing and keep it somewhere in your favorite thinking place to stimulate your

thinking.

2. Expose yourself to good thinkers: Spend time with the right people (this is

critical). As I work to expand the vision of Voices of Encouragement I bounce my

ideas off of key people; this keeps me from operating in a vacuum. (so that my

thought would be stretched). I am constantly growing and learning because I am

open to input. This is true of my VOE executive leadership team. Each one of

them is a good thinker! The writer of proverbs observed “iron sharpens iron”. If

you want to be a sharp thinker, be around sharp people.

3. Choose to think good thoughts/Act on your good thoughts: To become a

good thinker you must become intentional about the thinking process.

Constantly, put yourself in the right place to think, shape, stretch, and land your

thoughts. Make it a priority. Remember, thinking is a discipline and ideas do

have a short shelf life. You must act on them before their expiration date. “Think

things through then follow through”. To start the thinking process you cannot rely

on your feelings. Typically, “You can act your way into feeling long before you

can feel your way into action”. If you wait until you feel like doing something, you

will likely never accomplish it. The same is true for thinking. You cannot wait

until you feel like thinking to do it. Once you engage in the process of good

thinking, you can use your emotions to feed the process and create mental

momentum.

4. Repeat the Process: One good thought does not make a good thought life.

The people who have one good thought and try to ride it out for an entire career

often end up unhappy or destitute. They are one hit wonders, the one-book

authors, the one-time message speakers, the one-time inventors who spend their

life struggling to protect and promote their single idea. For example, could you

imagine Steve Job stopped “thinking” after the debut of the first iPhone in 2007?

Apple would lose customers to updated phones from their competitors! Success

come to those who have an entire mountain of gold that they continually mine,

not those who find one nugget and try to live on it for many years. To become a

good thinker you have need to keep repeating the process of good thinking.

PUT YOURSELF IN RIGHT PLACE: Becoming a good thinker isn’t overly complicated.

It’s a discipline. On a day-to-day basis I recommend the following to obtain success in

this area.

1. Find a place to think your thoughts: Find a place where you can think, and

plan to capture your thoughts on paper so that you don’t lose them.

2. Find a place to shape your thoughts: Shape your thoughts until you have

substance. During shaping time, you want to hold an idea up to strong scrutiny.

Many times, a thought that seemed outstanding late at night looks pretty silly in

the light of day. Ask questions about your idea. Fine tune them. As you shape

your thoughts, you will find out whether an idea has potential. You learn what

you have. You also learn some things about yourself. You can shape your

thoughts almost anywhere. Just find a place that works for you, where you will be

able to write things down, focus your attention, without interruptions and ask

questions about your idea.

3. Find a place to stretch your thoughts; If you come upon great thoughts and

spend time mentally shaping them, don’t think you’re done and stop there. If you

do, you will miss some of the most valuable aspects of the process. You miss

bringing others in and expanding the great ideas to their greatest potential. Keep

in mind this awesome “stretch formula”

The right Thought plus the right People

In the right Environment at the Right Time

For the right Reason = the Right Results

When you find a place to think, shape and stretch your thoughts – you find the potential

for your thoughts to go elevate to the next level.

4. Lastly, find a place to land your thoughts: If you want your thoughts to make

an impact, you need to land them with others so that they can ultimately be

implemented. As you plan for the application phase of the thinking process land

your ideas first with….

a. Yourself (landing idea with yourself will give you integrity) ask yourself:

Do I believe it? Did I live it? Do I believe others should live it? If you can’t

answer yes to all three then you haven’t landed it.

b. Key players (these are the influencers, after all, they are the people who

carry thoughts from idea to implementation)

c. Those most affected (landing thoughts with the people on the firing line

will give you great insight. Those closest to the change that occur as a

result of a new idea can give you a “reality read” (or reality check) to

ensure you don’t miss the mark.

American essayist Henry David Thoreau said:

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by

achieving your goals.”

If you can develop the discipline of good thinking and turn it into a lifetime habit, then

you will be successful and productive all of your life. Once you’ve created, shaped,

stretched, and landed your thoughts, then applying, implementing and living them will

be much easier.

Be sure to pick up your copy of John Maxwell’s book “How Successful People Think’.

He shares a lot great wisdom and practical exercises to help you think successfully. If

you do pick up a copy of the book - email me at voemetoday@gmail.com and let’s start

a dialogue on how successful people think. I would love to hear from you.

Be Bold! Be Fierce and stay the course! You Deserve It!

Thanks so much for listening to the show this week.

If you have enjoyed our time together, please share this podcast or tell a friend about it.

Mark your calendars for the upcoming Voices of Encouragements Women’s

Empowerment Workshop “Wisdom, Wealth, and Wellness” scheduled for Saturday,

January 26, 2019. For more information email me at Voemetoday@gmail.com.

Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive

Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:1 “Walk worthy of the calling with which you

were called.”

21 Day Happiness Challenge VOE Episode 17

Have you in the past or currently feel like you’re caught in a negative run that never seems to end? Do you feel at times that no matter how hard you try – it seems that happiness is unobtainable? Have you asked yourself too many times “Is there more to my life than this?” And here’s my last question to you – Do you want to achieve more passion/happiness in your life? On this week’s show, my goals is to provide you with bible guidance and practical advice to help you obtain happiness in your life by developing positive habits.

There are many avenues one can take to gain Happiness in their life – I’m going to

share with you today the 21-Day Happiness Challenge program. I am excited to share

this journey with you (because I am taking this journey myself). And here is the CALL

TO ACTION to you: Commit to complete the Happiness Challenge! Do this for

YOURSELF because you deserve it, to live your best life from a happier healthier

perspective! Plus, the happier you are, your cup will overflow with blessings that will

surely influence and impact those around you.

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspective; delving into God’s Word for

encouragement and wisdom. I look to scripture for guidance in how to increase my

faith, to make it bigger than my fears and strengthen my confidence.

Scripture tells us that:

“We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have

been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

We should always remember that God’s power and strength will never diminish. He is

never too tired or too busy to listen and help us. His power is our source of confidence.

So, when you experience set-backs, and you can’t take another step, and your plans

aren’t working out - just remember this… you can call on God and He will renew your

strength and give you fresh faith. Allow your confidence in God to lead you to trust Him

and trust yourself

The dictionary defines Happiness as: “the state of being happy”, “a state of well-being

and contentment”.

Other words that are closely related to happiness: pleasure, satisfaction, cheerfulness,

glee, delight, good spirits, lightheartedness, enjoyment.

So, how do we experience the definition of happiness? It starts with our minds. Each

and every day we use our mind to make decisions, respond to what happens around us,

and to determine our state of mind. However, some of us have not taken the time to

understand its nature and function (how our emotional state is tied to what we are

thinking) what you think about you bring about. Did you know that both happiness and

suffering are merely states of mind? Therefore, to truly be free from suffering and enjoy

happiness in every moment, it is imperative that we possess a thorough and profound

understanding of the mind and how to maintain control over our thoughts. This is the

best, most reliable way by which we can greatly improve our quality of life both now and

in the future.

We all know that life doesn’t always go the way we want it to. Sometimes we feel

overwhelmed with challenges and difficulties. Out of habit, our normal reaction to these

events is to regard the situation itself as the problem. In reality, however, all of our

problems arise from our own mind. When you’ve got a positive attitude of optimism,

expectancy and enthusiasm – your problem is not as bad as you originally thought.

This reminds me of what evangelist Dr. Myles Monroe stated in one of his sermons:

“The word “problem” is simply an opportunity to grow

Taking control of your happiness requires vigilance, dedication, and commitment. It is

your responsibility to manifest your dreams and goals to come to fruition. It’s up to you

to cultivate that dream that God placed in your heart, and you really can’t do that if

you’re not in a positive state of mind.

Are you ready to see if you are in tune with your soul’s happiness? Are you ready to

know more? Are you ready to pursue the steps to stay aligned with your heart? Said

differently, are you ready to take the 21day Happiness Challenge?

Before we get started, put me on pause and grab a piece of paper and a pen; you may

want to write these down for further reflection:

1. Do you give yourself permission to be happy?

2. Your attitude is a product of your belief, so your attitude comes from your

belief system. Are you willing to let go – modify where necessary your current

belief system in order to cultivate a happier state of mind?

3. Do you give yourself time to reflect on all the good in your life?

4. Do you want to live a more fulfilled life?

These thought-provoking questions are designed to help you think about the core of

your happiness.

Before we get started on the this challenge I am going to warn you it will require you to

be disciplined and focus.

Before I walk you through the 21 day happiness challenge steps… I want to share my

favorite quote from Mark Twain that gets me motivated:

“The secret to getting ahead is getting started”.

So, let’s get started!

But before I do, let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out loud to

myself every morning gets me excited and keeps me moving forward with my personal

goal of growing Voices of Encouragement to empower all women

AFFIRMATION

I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed this position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator He chose this

career for me

So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believe extreme success if our only fate

And as break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

Know idea is what you have

Cause I’m supercharged I’m highly powered

I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

Now you’re probably wondering where I got this 21-day Happiness Challenge from. On

a personal note I just completed my “Success Goals Coach Certification” from the

Transformation Academy! It was at that time the I saw this challenge on their website

and I thought it would be a good idea to share along with VOE’s Success Goals

Strategy Encouragement Formula so that you can reap the magnificent benefits of the

21-day Happiness Challenge.

I’d like to invite you to take the 21-day Happiness Challenge and send me an email to

(voemetoday@gmail.com) (in the subject line type I ACCEPT THE 21 DAY

HAPPINESS CHALLENGE and in the body of the email type your name and day you

start the 21 day happiness challenge) so we can communicate our results as we move

forward together.

Three of the VOE Encouragement Success Formula Tips that I feel will help you

stay focused during the 21-Day Happiness Challenge and beyond:

1. When the alarm sounds to get your day started – do not hit the snooze button

2. Do not look at social media until after 10am

3. Place your phone in another room to charge throughout when you go to sleep

ARE YOU READY TO TAKE THE 21 DAY CHALLENGE?

The 21 Day Happiness Challenge:

 Over the next few minutes, I’m going to step through the first seven days of

the challenge.

 Once the podcast has ended, please refer to the script that’s accompanying this

week’s show for the enter 21-day Happiness Challenge exercise.

 The first seven days focuses on creating a Happiness Routine. This is the most

important part of the challenge, as it helps you train your mind to form a consistent

routine in creating happiness in your day. Each of the first seven days offers a new

PROCESS or ACTIVITY.

 The second section (days 8-14) is designed to create a Happy Mind.

 The third section (15-21 days concludes with creating a Happy Life by taking action

and empowering yourself to do the things that bring you happiness.

(One very important tool you will need; is a journal (paper or digital) where you’ll

write in each day.)

Day 1-7 Creating a Happiness Routine

1 TOPIC: Gratitude – Write 10 things that you’re grateful for in your journal

2 TOPIC: Music

Routine - Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal

Challenge: – Listen to at least 1 song today (now) that makes you happy

3 TOPIC: Self Care/ Self Love -

Routine - Write 10 things that you’re grateful for in your journal and listen to

your favorite song

Challenge: Write your best traits in your journal. Affirm yourself in the mirror

(remember my affirmation that I shared with you on this podcast).

4 TOPIC: Physiology –

Routine – Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal, listen to your

favorite song, affirm yourself in the mirror.

Challenge: Give yourself a joy boost by putting your body a happy state by

thinking good thoughts.

5

TOPIC: Happy Anchor Thought

Routine – Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your

favorite song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost.

Challenge: Close your eyes and think of a happy thought.

6 TOPIC: Empowerment

Routine – Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your

favorite song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Get

yourself into a state and reinforce your happy anchor by touching the anchor

point while you’re in peak state during your happiness routine– something

that make you smile. (That is a anchor thought)

Challenge: Write words for self-empowerment in your journal

7 TOPIC: Meditation

Routine: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your

favorite song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give Yourself a joy boost.

Reinforce your happy anchor. Do your for self-empowerment.

Challenge: Listen to soothing music and take a deep breath.

Days 8-14: Creating a Happy Mind

Days

8-14

Creating a Happy Mind

8 TOPIC: The Now

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do for self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Practice heightened awareness of the present moment.

9 TOPIC: Happy Thoughts

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your for self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: List 3 -5 things you can think about in any moment to give a joy

boost. Read through your list, imagining each one.

10 TOPIC: Perspective

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Today, reflect every time you find yourself thinking you “have to”

or “can’t” do something.

11

TOPIC: Authenticity

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Reflect on the roles you play and how you can live more

authentically.

12 TOPIC: Beliefs

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

Reflect on the roles you play and how you can live more authentically.

CHALLENGE Write in your journal about the belief blueprints you are ready to

change.

13 TOPIC: Forgiveness

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: practice forgiveness and set yourself free.

14 TOPIC: Laughter

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Write in your journal ideas for bringing laughter into your life.

Days

15-21

Creating a Happy Life

15 TOPIC: Joyful Activities

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Write ideas in your journal and select one thing to do today that

brings you joy.

16 TOPIC: Social Activity

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Create a list of 3 to 5 ways you can add more POSITIVE social

engagement to your life. Do one thing today.

17 TOPIC: Nature

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: List 3 to 5 ways you can create more nature-time. Do at least 1

today.

18

TOPIC: Simplify

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Write in your journal about ways you can simplify your life. Make

1 change today.

19 TOPIC: Boundaries

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Commit to no negative inputs or people for 1 day. Write in your

journal about ways you can create boundaries and cut stress and drama out of

your life.

20 TOPIC: Spontaneity

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Plan a trip or event within the next 2 weeks and/or do something

spontaneous today.

.

21 TOPIC: Contribution

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: What acts of kindness have you observed? What acts of kindness

have been done to you? What acts of kindness have you done before? What acts

of kindness could you or would you like to do? What act of kindness will you do

TODAY?

Congratulations!

Once you’ve completed the Happiness Challenge! Celebrate the gift you’ve just given

yourself! Keep it going by continuing to set aside time every day to boost your own

mood. For 21 days, you developed a powerful HABIT—keep it going and happiness will

become your new way of life!

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by

achieving your goals.” Henry David Thoreau

Be sure to print out this script and follow the 21 day challenge – and don’t forget

to email me your progress or questions. I look forward to hearing from you!

Be Bold!! Be Fierce and stay the course! You Deserve It!

Instinct: Trust Yourself VOE Episode 16

Have you in the past or are currently struggling with trusting your instincts?

Whether or not you should leave your job and pursue what you’re truly passionate

about? Like starting a new business venture, establishing a non-profit organization,

investing in yourself by earning a degree or obtaining a certification in your field? Well,

that’s exactly what I’m going to help you with on this week’s show, where you’ll receive

biblical and practical advice to stir your soul and move your forward to say “YES!” to

fulfilling your passion by trusting your instinct!

Hi and welcome back to “A Woman’s Heart” podcast show, on the TRUE Conversations

Network, I’m your host Edna Howard, Founder of Voices of Encouragement, an

organization designed to empower women.

You can learn more about True conversations network at www.true-conversations.com

and more about Voices of Encouragement at www.voicesofencouragment.com.

Thank you for joining me to hear another empowering message. Think of me as your

Chief Encouragement Officer, as we explore together the power of trusting our

instincts. Have you in the past or are currently struggling with trusting your instincts?

Whether or not you should leave your job and pursue what you’re truly passionate

about? Like starting a new business venture, establishing a non-profit organization,

investing in yourself by earning a degree or obtaining a certification in your field? Well,

that’s exactly what I’m going to help you with on this week’s show, where you’ll receive

biblical and practical advice to stir your soul and move your forward to say “YES!” to

fulfilling your passion by trusting your instinct!

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspective; delving into God’s Word for

encouragement and wisdom. I look to scripture for guidance in how to increase my

faith, to make it bigger than my fears and strengthen my confidence.

The following two scriptures tie in beautifully with this podcast’s message:

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to

harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)

and

“The Spirit of the Lord will rest on him—

the Spirit of wisdom and of understanding,

the Spirit of counsel and of might,

the Spirit of the knowledge and fear of the Lord.” Isaiah 11:2

We should always remember that God’s power and strength will never diminish. He is

never too tired or too busy to listen and help us. His power is our source of confidence.

So, when you experience set-backs, and you can’t take another step, and your plans

aren’t working out - just remember this… you can call on God and He will renew your

strength and give you fresh faith. Allow your confidence in God to lead you to trust Him

and trust yourself

What is Instinct? Instinct is a natural or inherent aptitude, impulse, or capacity.

Best-selling author, T.D. Jakes defines the word ‘instinct’ in his book “Instinct The Power

To Unleash Your Inborn Drive” like this:

“Our instincts are the treasure maps for our soul’s satisfaction. Following our

instincts can make the crucial distinction between what we are good at – our

vocation or skill set – and what we are good for – the fulfillment of our purposeful

potential. He goes further to say that when you’re truly engaged with your life’s

calling, whether in the boutique, the banquet hall, or the boardroom, you rely on

something that cannot be taught”, “INSTINCT”. When harnessed, refined, and

heeded, our instincts can provide the key to unlocking our most productive, most

satisfying, most joyful lives”.

To be truly successful at anything we set out to do requires FAITH, discipline, hard

work, perseverance, tenacity, will, courage, focus, and “INSTINCT”. I am going to share

with you some guidelines for listening to that still small voice inside you that tells you

what you are doing is right no matter what others may be saying. YOU WILL LEARN

THAT WHEN MAKING A DECISION – IT IS BETTER TO LOOK WITHIN AND GO ON

INSTINCT then to rely solely on what the outside world is telling you.

Managing life requires vigilance, dedication, and commitment. It is your responsibility to

manifest your dreams and goals to come to fruition, and your instincts can help move

you forward. It is up to you to cultivate that dream that God placed in your heart.

Follow your instinct and let it drive you forward to success. Yes, Instinct allows you to

trust yourself – if you can’t trust yourself then who can you trust?

Are you ready to see if you are in tune with your instincts? Are you ready to know more?

Are you ready to pursue the steps to stay aligned with your gut soul instinct? Said

differently, are you ready to listen to yourself for yourself?

Before we get started, I have three questions to ask you first. If you can, put me on

pause and grab a piece of paper and a pen; you may want to write these down for

further reflection.

1. What decision or goal has your instinct led you to?

2. Do you trust yourself when making a critical decision?

3. After making a decision do you second guess yourself?

These thought-provoking questions are designed to help you discern whether or not you

are trusting your gut instinct to help you do that thing you say want to do. Remember

that promise you made yourself last week, yesterday or even today. (Did you trust

yourself enough to follow through?)

Let me encourage you today that whatever is on your heart or whatever you have

promised yourself that you will complete. Get your game face on and trust your instinct

in helping your make that goal or dream come to pass. YOU CAN DO IT, I believe in

you.

On today’s show I would like to share with you 4 Steps that I found in a blog, written by

Liz Funk in November 2017titled: “To Help You Trust Your Instincts”. Please note that I

have tweaked them just a little to fit the Voices of Encouragement Podcast format.

Hana Ayoub, a professional development coach says: “We spend most of our

workdays in our outer world. We’re interacting with our team members and clients. We

don’t have enough time in our inner world where we can reflect on those experiences

and listen to what our gut might have to say”.

Melody Wilding, a licensed therapist, and professor ask us the questions: “Why is

trusting your gut so powerful? Because your gut has been cataloging a whole lot of

information for as long as you’ve been alive. “Trusting your gut instinct is trusting the

collection of all your subconscious experiences.

I want you to really think of all the time and mental energy that can be conserved by not

having to overthink or overanalyze your next move. Just trust your “INSTINCT”

Before I step you through those four steps… I want to share my favorite quote from

Mark Twain that gets me motivated:

“The secret to getting ahead is getting started”.

So, let’s get started!

But before I do, let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out loud to

myself every morning gets me excited and keeps me moving forward with my personal

goal of growing Voices of Encouragement to empower all women.

AFFIRMATION

I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed this position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator He chose this

career for me

So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believe extreme success if our only fate

And as break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

Know idea is what you have

Cause I’m supercharged I’m highly powered

I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

The 4 Steps “To Help You Trust Your Instincts” are as follows:

1. Carve Out Time to Reflect

2. Give Yourself Constraints

3. Be Aware of Your Feelings

4. List Every Time Your Gut Instinct Served You

Carve Out Time To Reflect: After a meeting or interaction that requires a decision on

your part, give yourself mental space to reflect. Instead of moving to the next task at

hand, take a walk around the block. Spend time alone. Even if it’s just a few minutes.

Depending on the seriousness of the decision, you may have to sleep on it and make a

decision tomorrow. Start building responses in your conversations, when a decision

requires you to take time to think and contemplate. Such as “Give me a day to marinate,

I’ll get back with you tomorrow.” Or “You’ve presented some great courses of actions,

please give me a week and I will circle back with you with my final decision.”

You have to create space to listen to what your gut is saying. That’s why people say

they get their best ideas in the shower, or while conducting a yoga practice or during a

neighborhood run. Give yourself permission to think things through, you deserve the live

your best life, and that starts with making sound decisions.

Give Yourself Constraints: This is for those who over analyze. Every time you

have a big decision or tough choice to make, give yourself a half hour window to make

it. At the end of that half hour, you’re going to have to use your instinct.

This forces you to be more instinctive. Do you find yourself saying “should I or should I

not?”; if so ask yourself according to who?’ This will make you think about the pressure

you are putting on yourself. The ‘shoulds’ help people tune in to when they’re not

listening to their instinct.

Be Aware of Your Feelings: Take the time to develop an awareness of how you feel

during work situation. Do a body scan of what’s going on in you. You may think, “I feel

nervous right now”, or “I feel like I’m not sure what’s coming next”. Use those skills of

emotional labeling to get in touch with what your instinct might be saying to you.

List Every Time Your Gut Instinct Served You: Being instinctive isn’t simply an innate

trait; it’s a quality that increases or decreases given how much we practice doing it well.

Take the time to list all the times you trusted your gut and whether the outcome was

favorable.

By taking time to go through this exercise, you’ll see, when you trusted your instinct.

Allows you time to reflect and see if you felt good about the decision you made. Your

instinct starts getting better at doing what’s right for you. And as similar situations arise

you begin to rely on your instinct, you realize you had this instinct before, and it’s that

much stronger. It gets sharper and more reactive. Then, when you experience positive

outcomes, it creates a positive feedback loop. With time, you can comfortably defer

more and more of your decision-making to your gut instinct.

TD Jake’s reminds us “If we don’t’ discover our passions, purpose, and power then we

will pursue the roles assigned by other people’s scripts.”

Said differently, you will be following someone else direction for your life. Now you can’t

allow someone else to tell you how to live out your dreams. Only you should determine

that course of direction.

Be Bold!! Be Fierce and stay the course! You Deserve It!

Call To Action To live your best remarkable life, it is critical to take consistent action in

spite of our life challenges. Promise yourself today that you are going to push yourself

to rely on your instinct when pursuing your passion, goals, and dreams. I Believe in

You!

Thanks so much for listening to the show this week.

If you have enjoyed our time together, please share this podcast or tell a friend about it.

Mark your calendars for the upcoming Voices of Encouragements Women’s

Empowerment Workshop scheduled for Saturday, October 13 th (VOE will be celebrating

our one-year anniversary of the VOE Woman’s Empowerment Breakfast series. For

more information email me at Voemetoday@gmail.com.

Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive

Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:1 “Walk worthy of the calling with which you

were called.”