We have teach ourselves how to quiet the noise in our heads so that we can think the right thoughts!
Hi and welcome back to “A Woman’s Heart” podcast show, on the
TRUE Conversations Network, I’m your host Edna Howard, Founder of
Voices of Encouragement, an organization designed to empower
I’m so excited you are joining me for another empowering message.
This year I am shining the spotlight on women in leadership (both in
business and in the community) Women who are visionaries, thought
leaders and trail blazers). In all aspects of MOTIVATIONAL
LEADERSHIP!! We have teach ourselves how to quiet the noise in
our heads so that we can think the right thoughts!
Think of me as your Chief Encouragement Officer exploring the topic
on “Quieting the chatterbox”.
I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspective; God’s Word
is my source for encouragement and wisdom and I look to scripture for
guidance in how to increase my faith, to make it bigger than my fears
and strengthen my confidence.
Romans 12:2 (NIV) “ Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but
be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to
test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect
The conversation today is all about how to “Quiet the Noise in your
Mind (the Chatterbox)”. I know I am not alone in my desire to quiet
those unwanted thoughts that randomly run through my mind, so if you
want some tips on how to keep that chatterbox from taking over your
thoughts keep listening. By the time this podcast ends, you will be well
one your way to condition your mind in becoming a “lean-mean-
thinking-machine” with the strategies I will share with you today. Are
you ready to “Quiet Your Chatterbox”!?!
What do I mean by ‘Chatterbox’?
‘The Chatterbox’ is internal dialogues that constantly run through our
Self-talk, also referred to as the chatterbox is what we repeat to
ourselves – our mental background music. Most of us are not even aware
of our self-talk; yet it has a powerful influence on our behavior, our
stress, our motivation and our actions. This inner voice chatterbox
practically never ceases talking. It’s that voice inside your head that
says, “I can’t do it… I’ll fail… I am a loser… I am not skinny enough”
or “You can’t afford it… You will never be rich and on and on”.
Here’s the deal, if your inner chatter is negative then you need to STOP
the voice going on inside your head and replace it with positive thoughts
like “I can do this!”, “I will do my best!”, “I look good!”, “I have what it
takes”, “I am thankful for God’s provision!”. You need to do this over
and over again until your negative mind chatter is replaced with positive
thoughts. “Quiet the Noise”
The Buddha, who coined the term “Monkey Brain” some two and half
millennia ago, defined it best when he said; ‘Just as a monkey swinging
through the trees, grabs one branch and lets it go only to seize another,
so too, that which is called a thought, mind or consciousness arises and
disappears continually both day and night.’
When we stop the inner chattering, we will then see that most things
become attainable and scripture tells us that all things are possible.
This could be an ongoing battle for many people, but I’m here today to
help you overcome that battle and “Quiet the Noise”.
As author and motivational speaker Brian Tracey says:
"Perhaps the most powerful influence on your attitude and personality is
what you say to yourself and believe. It is not what happens to you, but
how you respond internally to what happens to you, that determines your
thoughts and feeling and, ultimately, your actions. By controlling your
inner dialogue, or "self-talk," you can begin to assert control over every
other dimension of your life."
When our minds are chattering, and we are talking to ourselves and not
to others we somehow drift off into the negative self-talk (which can
cause internal harm). We say that only crazy people talk to themselves,
but the truth is that we all talk to ourselves all day long, without even
knowing it. In fact, we have around 60,000 thoughts a day.
Now I’m sure you have caught yourself a time or two just speaking out
loud to yourself, I know I have but I have learned to tell myself that God
only wants what is best for me so I going to believe him for successful
The trick here is not that you talk to yourself but to listen to what you
are saying to yourself. Are you telling yourself you are not good enough
or you don’t have what it takes? Do you find yourself comparing
yourself to others’ accomplishments and lifestyles?
I honestly believe that social media has a lot to do with what shapes our
perception and perspective because it is designed to filter out everyone’s
amazing events in their lives and burn those images in our minds –
making us believe that everybody is living life like a “Rock Star”, when
in reality they have challenges and struggles just like you and I.
“QUIET THE NOISE”
If you can put me on pause and grab a pen and paper and write
Ask yourself these questions:
What are you thinking?
What are you telling yourself?
Where does this inner voice come from?
These thought-provoking questions are meant to help you take action in
going in the right direction to “QUIET THAT NOISE”!
In researching this topic I discover some excellent advice from Dr.
Patrick Wanis. He is a Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior &
Relationship Expert. Dr. Patrick Wanis says:
“All those thoughts that make up the chatterbox are the result of
everything you have ever been told and that you accepted as true.
These thoughts and messages are the things you were told during
your childhood by your parents, family, peers and the media. They
can also be the result of events that occurred in your life or your
personal thoughts and fears.
You may find that many of the things your parents told you as a
child are the very things you repeat to yourself all day long – often
without even knowing it. Some of these things you accepted as true
because you experienced them as a child, and children learn by
imitating. For example, if your parents worked hard to make their
money, you probably believe that only hard work leads to money,
yet others around you may seem to come into money easily.”
An additional tip from Dr. Wanis is that we should reprogram our Inner
He suggests that we change the messages we continually repeat to
ourselves all day long. If you consistently and permanently change your
self-talk, your mind would direct you towards positive thoughts about
yourself. For example, if you are thinking, “I can’t do this” or “I’ll never
be able to make this goal happen” turn that stinking thinking to “Of
course I can be successful” or “I’m going to definitely make this
happen”. What you have just done – is become your own Chief
Encouragement Officer – priming your mind to think and act more
Mark Twain said, “The secret to getting ahead is getting started”; so let’s
But before I do let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying
it out loud to myself every morning gets me excited and keeps moving
forward with my personal goal of growing Voices of Encouragement to
empower all women.
I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission
In 2017 I assumed this position
Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator
He chose this career for me
So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are
on the grow
We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate
Believe extreme success if our only fate
And as break pass this invisible wall of fear
Let me keep real and be very clear
If you think you know you have no idea
Know idea is what you have
Cause I’m supercharged I’m highly powered
I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard
You may ask yourself, so how do I change my inner voice and “QUIET
THAT NOISE”? Neuroscience tells us that, to be more productive and
creative, we need to give our brains a break. It's the quiet mind that
produces the best insights. But it's a challenge to take that sort of time
off in the midst of a busy day.
Today, I will review 3 easy strategies you can use to help quiet your
negative self-talk and steer your thoughts in the direction of a powerful,
positive state of mind. “QUIET THAT NOISE”
1. Practice Self-Love and Self-Care
2. Take Quick Meditations
3. Be Mindful
PRACTICE SELF-LOVE AND SELF-CARE
Make sure you take time out of your day for some self-love and
compassion toward yourself.
Power Tip: Develop a habit of setting aside time each day to show
yourself some love, no matter what. For example, I love to take hot
bubble baths (placing a candle in the bathroom) and putting on some
relaxing background music or sitting on my back deck, and even take
long walks in the park by myself to think good thoughts. These actions
may not seem important, but you’d be surprised just how much self-care
and self-love can put you in the right positive mindset and help you
control those negative random thoughts. “QUIET THE NOISE”
TAKE QUICK MEDITATIONS
This is a powerful mental exercise with the potential to change the
physical structure of the brain.
Power Tip: If you commute via public transportation (or even if you're
a passenger in a car pool) use the time to close your eyes for 10 minutes.
If you drive, leave a little early, park, and spend 10 minutes in the car
before you walk into work. Choose a very specific image, such as a
waterfall, beach, or tree, and try to focus on it alone. If other thoughts
get in the way, gently push them aside. Do this once or twice per day.
The goal is to let your mind achieve a sense of relaxed awareness and
experience positive thoughts. “QUIET THE NOISE”
Mindfulness is about choosing to pay attention to the present moment in
a curious and nonjudgmental way. Mindfulness calls on us to notice
when our thoughts have drifted to the past or wandered into the future,
and when we are regretting, fantasizing, or worrying rather than
engaging with what is right in front of us. Each time we are able to step
away from the pinball game in our mind and focus on the present, we
give ourselves the best possible chance to make the best possible choice,
whatever that may be. “QUIET THE NOISE”
Power Tip: You can practice being mindful by consciously slowing
down your activities. Whatever character strength you are high in;
consider how you can use it to overcome what is getting in your way of
positive thoughts. For example, use your strength in gratitude when your
mind starts to wander a lot (expressing gratitude that you have a mind
and that you’re able to be aware when it wanders off!) Use
your humility when discomfort arises in your body and curiosity when
your mind continues to wrap around worry.
Some folks may think that slowing things down is a “waste” of time. Far
from it. Doing things mindfully increases your productivity. How?
Because the mind stays quiet and precise. There is no interference from
the pointless mind chatter. “QUIET THE NOISE”.
Overcoming negative self-talk requires practice, effort and time; and it
starts with you. Awareness is the first step to managing your mind; next,
you must discern what actions you will take to reverse negative self-talk;
and lastly, be kind to yourself in your journey in quieting the noise.
Here is one question you can ask yourself – how would you feel if your
internal chatterbox went “live” for all the world to hear? When
bombarded with negativity, turn it around, pray for God’s Power,
believe in yourself, and live your best life!
Thanks so much for listening in.
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PLEASE Mark your calendars for the upcoming VOE Women’s Empowerment Workshop on
Saturday, September 28th ”Women of Worth – I am Enough”. For more information email
me at Voemetoday@gmail.com. You can learn more about True conversations network at
www.true-conversations.com and more about Voices of Encouragement at
Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive
Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:1 “Walk worthy of the calling with which you were called.