Change Your Mind Change Your Life VOE Episode 18

We will explore together the importance of changing your thinking to improve and change your life. You are probably wondering “Why Should I change my Thinking?” My answer to you is simply because good thinking can solve problems, create opportunities, and take you to a whole new level both personally and professionally. Simply put, it can change your life. Do you want to master the process of good thinking? Do you want to be a better thinker tomorrow than you are today?

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Hi and welcome back to “A Woman’s Heart” podcast show, on the TRUE Conversations

Network, I’m your host Edna Howard, Founder of Voices of Encouragement, an

organization designed to empower women.

You can learn more about True conversations network at www.true-conversations.com

and more about Voices of Encouragement at www.voicesofencouragment.com.

Thank you for joining me to hear another empowering message. Think of me as your

Chief Encouragement Officer, as we explore together the importance of changing your

thinking to improve and change your life. You are probably wondering “Why Should I

change my Thinking?” My answer to you is simply because good thinking can solve

problems, create opportunities, and take you to a whole new level both personally and

professionally. Simply put, it can change your life. Do you want to master the process

of good thinking? Do you want to be a better thinker tomorrow than you are today? If

your answer to these questions is yes, then you need to engage in an ongoing process

that improves your thinking. On this week’s show, my goal is to provide you with bible

guidance and practical advice to help you develop habits to change your thinking that

can change your life.

There are many different ways we can become better thinkers, for example - New York

Best Selling Author John Maxwell’s book “How Successful People Think” gives practical

advice and tools on how to become a better thinker. In his book eleven chapters

focuses on one type of thinking, and contain a case study, critical thinking questions, a

journal section, and an action place of steps to help the reader create a personalized

plan. Some key points that resonated with me from when I read the book:

 Expose yourself to good input

 Expose yourself to good thinkers

 Choose to think good thoughts

 Act on your good thoughts

 Use your emotions to create more good thoughts

From a personal perspective I believe it’s about controlling your thoughts and managing

your emotions. So, if there are things occurring in your life that make you wonder how

did I get here and why are these negative things occurring? I encourage you to find a

quiet place and begin to think deep thoughts about what it is you’re thinking about and

why you may be thinking these thoughts. Are you ready to improve your thinking and

engage in positive self-talk so you can change your life?

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspective; delving into God’s Word for

encouragement and wisdom. I look to scripture for guidance in how to increase my

faith, to make it bigger than my fears and strengthen my confidence.

Scripture tells us that in Proverbs 23:7 the “As a man thinks in his heart so is he” And

In Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. And lastly, I

am reminded of the scripture: Romans 12:2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this

world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test

and approve what God’s will is – His good, pleasing and perfect will.”

We should always remember that God’s power and strength will never diminish. He is

never too tired or too busy to listen and help us. His power is our source of confidence.

So, when things happen and we become discourage, remember to put your thinking in

check to ensure that your perspective is clear and not cloudy. We have the ability to

create our own reality with our thinking, so we need to think good thoughts. I encourage

you not to let self-doubt and unworthiness taint your spirit. We have all the power in

Christ Jesus and He is able to do exceedingly and abundantly all that we ask and think.

And when He is ready He will open doors no one can close.

This reminds me of one of Ralph Waldo Emerson quotes: “Life consist of what a man

is thinking about all day”

And little-known Englishman James Allen, who wrote a small book called “As a Man

Thinketh” said, “You are today where your thoughts have brought you. You will be

tomorrow where your thoughts take you.”

Taking control of your thought life requires vigilance, dedication, and commitment. It is

your responsibility to take control of your thinking to manifest your dreams and goals to

come to fruition.

Before we get started, put me on pause and grab a piece of paper and a pen; I have

some questions I need to ask you, and may want to write these down for further

reflection:

1. When spending time alone do you think good thoughts?

2. When spending time with others do you think good thoughts?

3. Do you think creative thoughts about your future?

4. Do you want to change the way you think?

These thought-provoking questions are designed to help you gauge how you think and

where you might need some work.

One of my favorite quotes is from Mark Twain:

“The secret to getting ahead is getting started”.

So, let’s get started!

But before I do, let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out loud to

myself every morning gets me motivated and keeps me moving forward with my

personal goal of growing Voices of Encouragement to empower all women

AFFIRMATION

I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed this position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator He chose this

career for me

So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believe extreme success if our only fate

And as break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

Know idea is what you have

Cause I’m supercharged I’m highly powered

I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

Now you’re probably wondering why I decided to focus on the topic “how we think”. The

mission of Voices of Encouragement is to empower women, to help them realize their

dreams, reach their goals, and live their best life. And as much as I want to see yours

and millions of women’s dreams and goals materialize, you’ve got have the right

mindset and positive thoughts to create your own reality from the thoughts you think

because what you think about you bring about.

Good thinkers solve problems, they never lack ideas, and they always have hope for a

better future. Good thinkers rarely find themselves at the mercy of those who out think

them and take advantage of them or try to deceive them.

GOOD THINKER

John Maxwell reminds us that we should remember to expose ourselves to good input,

expose ourselves to good thinkers, choose to think good thoughts, act on your good

thoughts, and use your emotions to create more good thoughts. So, in the remainder of

today’s podcast I will share with you, what to expect when you start working on

improving your thinking, how you can become a better thinker and why changing your

thinking is in your best interest:

Today I will review:

 WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN CHANGING YOUR THINKING

 HOW TO BECOME A BETTER THINKER

 HOW TO PUT YOURSELF IN RIGHT PLACE TO THINK

WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN CHANGING YOUR THINKING

1. Changed thinking is not automatic: Keep in mind changing the way you think

is not automatic. If you want to become a better thinker, you need to work at it –

and once you begin to become a better thinker, the good ideas keep coming. In

fact, the amount of good thinking you can do at any time depends primarily on

the amount of good thinking you are already doing.

2. Changing your thought process takes work: The only people who believe

thinking is easy are those who don’t habitually engage in it. The reality is

thinking is hard work and taking the path of least resistance will not be in your

best interest, You must consistently engage your mind and use the appropriate

tools to help you improve the way you think.

3. Your mind and life if worth making the investment to change the way you

think: American self-help author, known best for his book “Think and Grow

Rich” Napoleon Hill wrote, “More gold has been mined from the thoughts of man

than has ever been taken from the earth.” When you take time to learn how to

change your thinking and become a better thinker, you are investing in yourself.

Gold mines tap out. Stock markets crash. Real estate investments can go sour.

But a human mind with the ability to think well is like a diamond mine that never

runs out. It’s priceless.

HOW TO BECOME A BETTER THINKER: Do you want to master the process of good

thinking? Do you want to be a better thinker tomorrow than you are today? Then you

need to engage in an ongoing process that improves your thinking.

1. Expose yourself to good input: Good thinkers always prime the pumps for

good ideas. They always look for things to get the thinking process started,

because what you put in always impacts what comes out. Read books, review

magazines, listen to podcast or tapes, and spend time with good thinkers. And

when something intrigues you—whether it’s someone else’s idea or the seed of

an idea that you’ve come up with yourself – keep it in front of you. Put it in

writing and keep it somewhere in your favorite thinking place to stimulate your

thinking.

2. Expose yourself to good thinkers: Spend time with the right people (this is

critical). As I work to expand the vision of Voices of Encouragement I bounce my

ideas off of key people; this keeps me from operating in a vacuum. (so that my

thought would be stretched). I am constantly growing and learning because I am

open to input. This is true of my VOE executive leadership team. Each one of

them is a good thinker! The writer of proverbs observed “iron sharpens iron”. If

you want to be a sharp thinker, be around sharp people.

3. Choose to think good thoughts/Act on your good thoughts: To become a

good thinker you must become intentional about the thinking process.

Constantly, put yourself in the right place to think, shape, stretch, and land your

thoughts. Make it a priority. Remember, thinking is a discipline and ideas do

have a short shelf life. You must act on them before their expiration date. “Think

things through then follow through”. To start the thinking process you cannot rely

on your feelings. Typically, “You can act your way into feeling long before you

can feel your way into action”. If you wait until you feel like doing something, you

will likely never accomplish it. The same is true for thinking. You cannot wait

until you feel like thinking to do it. Once you engage in the process of good

thinking, you can use your emotions to feed the process and create mental

momentum.

4. Repeat the Process: One good thought does not make a good thought life.

The people who have one good thought and try to ride it out for an entire career

often end up unhappy or destitute. They are one hit wonders, the one-book

authors, the one-time message speakers, the one-time inventors who spend their

life struggling to protect and promote their single idea. For example, could you

imagine Steve Job stopped “thinking” after the debut of the first iPhone in 2007?

Apple would lose customers to updated phones from their competitors! Success

come to those who have an entire mountain of gold that they continually mine,

not those who find one nugget and try to live on it for many years. To become a

good thinker you have need to keep repeating the process of good thinking.

PUT YOURSELF IN RIGHT PLACE: Becoming a good thinker isn’t overly complicated.

It’s a discipline. On a day-to-day basis I recommend the following to obtain success in

this area.

1. Find a place to think your thoughts: Find a place where you can think, and

plan to capture your thoughts on paper so that you don’t lose them.

2. Find a place to shape your thoughts: Shape your thoughts until you have

substance. During shaping time, you want to hold an idea up to strong scrutiny.

Many times, a thought that seemed outstanding late at night looks pretty silly in

the light of day. Ask questions about your idea. Fine tune them. As you shape

your thoughts, you will find out whether an idea has potential. You learn what

you have. You also learn some things about yourself. You can shape your

thoughts almost anywhere. Just find a place that works for you, where you will be

able to write things down, focus your attention, without interruptions and ask

questions about your idea.

3. Find a place to stretch your thoughts; If you come upon great thoughts and

spend time mentally shaping them, don’t think you’re done and stop there. If you

do, you will miss some of the most valuable aspects of the process. You miss

bringing others in and expanding the great ideas to their greatest potential. Keep

in mind this awesome “stretch formula”

The right Thought plus the right People

In the right Environment at the Right Time

For the right Reason = the Right Results

When you find a place to think, shape and stretch your thoughts – you find the potential

for your thoughts to go elevate to the next level.

4. Lastly, find a place to land your thoughts: If you want your thoughts to make

an impact, you need to land them with others so that they can ultimately be

implemented. As you plan for the application phase of the thinking process land

your ideas first with….

a. Yourself (landing idea with yourself will give you integrity) ask yourself:

Do I believe it? Did I live it? Do I believe others should live it? If you can’t

answer yes to all three then you haven’t landed it.

b. Key players (these are the influencers, after all, they are the people who

carry thoughts from idea to implementation)

c. Those most affected (landing thoughts with the people on the firing line

will give you great insight. Those closest to the change that occur as a

result of a new idea can give you a “reality read” (or reality check) to

ensure you don’t miss the mark.

American essayist Henry David Thoreau said:

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by

achieving your goals.”

If you can develop the discipline of good thinking and turn it into a lifetime habit, then

you will be successful and productive all of your life. Once you’ve created, shaped,

stretched, and landed your thoughts, then applying, implementing and living them will

be much easier.

Be sure to pick up your copy of John Maxwell’s book “How Successful People Think’.

He shares a lot great wisdom and practical exercises to help you think successfully. If

you do pick up a copy of the book - email me at voemetoday@gmail.com and let’s start

a dialogue on how successful people think. I would love to hear from you.

Be Bold! Be Fierce and stay the course! You Deserve It!

Thanks so much for listening to the show this week.

If you have enjoyed our time together, please share this podcast or tell a friend about it.

Mark your calendars for the upcoming Voices of Encouragements Women’s

Empowerment Workshop “Wisdom, Wealth, and Wellness” scheduled for Saturday,

January 26, 2019. For more information email me at Voemetoday@gmail.com.

Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive

Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:1 “Walk worthy of the calling with which you

were called.”

21 Day Happiness Challenge VOE Episode 17

Have you in the past or currently feel like you’re caught in a negative run that never seems to end? Do you feel at times that no matter how hard you try – it seems that happiness is unobtainable? Have you asked yourself too many times “Is there more to my life than this?” And here’s my last question to you – Do you want to achieve more passion/happiness in your life? On this week’s show, my goals is to provide you with bible guidance and practical advice to help you obtain happiness in your life by developing positive habits.

There are many avenues one can take to gain Happiness in their life – I’m going to

share with you today the 21-Day Happiness Challenge program. I am excited to share

this journey with you (because I am taking this journey myself). And here is the CALL

TO ACTION to you: Commit to complete the Happiness Challenge! Do this for

YOURSELF because you deserve it, to live your best life from a happier healthier

perspective! Plus, the happier you are, your cup will overflow with blessings that will

surely influence and impact those around you.

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspective; delving into God’s Word for

encouragement and wisdom. I look to scripture for guidance in how to increase my

faith, to make it bigger than my fears and strengthen my confidence.

Scripture tells us that:

“We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have

been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

We should always remember that God’s power and strength will never diminish. He is

never too tired or too busy to listen and help us. His power is our source of confidence.

So, when you experience set-backs, and you can’t take another step, and your plans

aren’t working out - just remember this… you can call on God and He will renew your

strength and give you fresh faith. Allow your confidence in God to lead you to trust Him

and trust yourself

The dictionary defines Happiness as: “the state of being happy”, “a state of well-being

and contentment”.

Other words that are closely related to happiness: pleasure, satisfaction, cheerfulness,

glee, delight, good spirits, lightheartedness, enjoyment.

So, how do we experience the definition of happiness? It starts with our minds. Each

and every day we use our mind to make decisions, respond to what happens around us,

and to determine our state of mind. However, some of us have not taken the time to

understand its nature and function (how our emotional state is tied to what we are

thinking) what you think about you bring about. Did you know that both happiness and

suffering are merely states of mind? Therefore, to truly be free from suffering and enjoy

happiness in every moment, it is imperative that we possess a thorough and profound

understanding of the mind and how to maintain control over our thoughts. This is the

best, most reliable way by which we can greatly improve our quality of life both now and

in the future.

We all know that life doesn’t always go the way we want it to. Sometimes we feel

overwhelmed with challenges and difficulties. Out of habit, our normal reaction to these

events is to regard the situation itself as the problem. In reality, however, all of our

problems arise from our own mind. When you’ve got a positive attitude of optimism,

expectancy and enthusiasm – your problem is not as bad as you originally thought.

This reminds me of what evangelist Dr. Myles Monroe stated in one of his sermons:

“The word “problem” is simply an opportunity to grow

Taking control of your happiness requires vigilance, dedication, and commitment. It is

your responsibility to manifest your dreams and goals to come to fruition. It’s up to you

to cultivate that dream that God placed in your heart, and you really can’t do that if

you’re not in a positive state of mind.

Are you ready to see if you are in tune with your soul’s happiness? Are you ready to

know more? Are you ready to pursue the steps to stay aligned with your heart? Said

differently, are you ready to take the 21day Happiness Challenge?

Before we get started, put me on pause and grab a piece of paper and a pen; you may

want to write these down for further reflection:

1. Do you give yourself permission to be happy?

2. Your attitude is a product of your belief, so your attitude comes from your

belief system. Are you willing to let go – modify where necessary your current

belief system in order to cultivate a happier state of mind?

3. Do you give yourself time to reflect on all the good in your life?

4. Do you want to live a more fulfilled life?

These thought-provoking questions are designed to help you think about the core of

your happiness.

Before we get started on the this challenge I am going to warn you it will require you to

be disciplined and focus.

Before I walk you through the 21 day happiness challenge steps… I want to share my

favorite quote from Mark Twain that gets me motivated:

“The secret to getting ahead is getting started”.

So, let’s get started!

But before I do, let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out loud to

myself every morning gets me excited and keeps me moving forward with my personal

goal of growing Voices of Encouragement to empower all women

AFFIRMATION

I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed this position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator He chose this

career for me

So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believe extreme success if our only fate

And as break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

Know idea is what you have

Cause I’m supercharged I’m highly powered

I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

Now you’re probably wondering where I got this 21-day Happiness Challenge from. On

a personal note I just completed my “Success Goals Coach Certification” from the

Transformation Academy! It was at that time the I saw this challenge on their website

and I thought it would be a good idea to share along with VOE’s Success Goals

Strategy Encouragement Formula so that you can reap the magnificent benefits of the

21-day Happiness Challenge.

I’d like to invite you to take the 21-day Happiness Challenge and send me an email to

(voemetoday@gmail.com) (in the subject line type I ACCEPT THE 21 DAY

HAPPINESS CHALLENGE and in the body of the email type your name and day you

start the 21 day happiness challenge) so we can communicate our results as we move

forward together.

Three of the VOE Encouragement Success Formula Tips that I feel will help you

stay focused during the 21-Day Happiness Challenge and beyond:

1. When the alarm sounds to get your day started – do not hit the snooze button

2. Do not look at social media until after 10am

3. Place your phone in another room to charge throughout when you go to sleep

ARE YOU READY TO TAKE THE 21 DAY CHALLENGE?

The 21 Day Happiness Challenge:

 Over the next few minutes, I’m going to step through the first seven days of

the challenge.

 Once the podcast has ended, please refer to the script that’s accompanying this

week’s show for the enter 21-day Happiness Challenge exercise.

 The first seven days focuses on creating a Happiness Routine. This is the most

important part of the challenge, as it helps you train your mind to form a consistent

routine in creating happiness in your day. Each of the first seven days offers a new

PROCESS or ACTIVITY.

 The second section (days 8-14) is designed to create a Happy Mind.

 The third section (15-21 days concludes with creating a Happy Life by taking action

and empowering yourself to do the things that bring you happiness.

(One very important tool you will need; is a journal (paper or digital) where you’ll

write in each day.)

Day 1-7 Creating a Happiness Routine

1 TOPIC: Gratitude – Write 10 things that you’re grateful for in your journal

2 TOPIC: Music

Routine - Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal

Challenge: – Listen to at least 1 song today (now) that makes you happy

3 TOPIC: Self Care/ Self Love -

Routine - Write 10 things that you’re grateful for in your journal and listen to

your favorite song

Challenge: Write your best traits in your journal. Affirm yourself in the mirror

(remember my affirmation that I shared with you on this podcast).

4 TOPIC: Physiology –

Routine – Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal, listen to your

favorite song, affirm yourself in the mirror.

Challenge: Give yourself a joy boost by putting your body a happy state by

thinking good thoughts.

5

TOPIC: Happy Anchor Thought

Routine – Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your

favorite song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost.

Challenge: Close your eyes and think of a happy thought.

6 TOPIC: Empowerment

Routine – Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your

favorite song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Get

yourself into a state and reinforce your happy anchor by touching the anchor

point while you’re in peak state during your happiness routine– something

that make you smile. (That is a anchor thought)

Challenge: Write words for self-empowerment in your journal

7 TOPIC: Meditation

Routine: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your

favorite song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give Yourself a joy boost.

Reinforce your happy anchor. Do your for self-empowerment.

Challenge: Listen to soothing music and take a deep breath.

Days 8-14: Creating a Happy Mind

Days

8-14

Creating a Happy Mind

8 TOPIC: The Now

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do for self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Practice heightened awareness of the present moment.

9 TOPIC: Happy Thoughts

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your for self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: List 3 -5 things you can think about in any moment to give a joy

boost. Read through your list, imagining each one.

10 TOPIC: Perspective

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Today, reflect every time you find yourself thinking you “have to”

or “can’t” do something.

11

TOPIC: Authenticity

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Reflect on the roles you play and how you can live more

authentically.

12 TOPIC: Beliefs

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

Reflect on the roles you play and how you can live more authentically.

CHALLENGE Write in your journal about the belief blueprints you are ready to

change.

13 TOPIC: Forgiveness

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: practice forgiveness and set yourself free.

14 TOPIC: Laughter

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Write in your journal ideas for bringing laughter into your life.

Days

15-21

Creating a Happy Life

15 TOPIC: Joyful Activities

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Write ideas in your journal and select one thing to do today that

brings you joy.

16 TOPIC: Social Activity

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Create a list of 3 to 5 ways you can add more POSITIVE social

engagement to your life. Do one thing today.

17 TOPIC: Nature

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: List 3 to 5 ways you can create more nature-time. Do at least 1

today.

18

TOPIC: Simplify

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Write in your journal about ways you can simplify your life. Make

1 change today.

19 TOPIC: Boundaries

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Commit to no negative inputs or people for 1 day. Write in your

journal about ways you can create boundaries and cut stress and drama out of

your life.

20 TOPIC: Spontaneity

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: Plan a trip or event within the next 2 weeks and/or do something

spontaneous today.

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21 TOPIC: Contribution

ROUTINE: Write 10 things you appreciate in your journal. Listen to your favorite

song. Affirm yourself in the mirror. Give yourself a joy boost. Reinforce your

happy anchor. Do your self-empowerment. Listen to the happiness meditation.

CHALLENGE: What acts of kindness have you observed? What acts of kindness

have been done to you? What acts of kindness have you done before? What acts

of kindness could you or would you like to do? What act of kindness will you do

TODAY?

Congratulations!

Once you’ve completed the Happiness Challenge! Celebrate the gift you’ve just given

yourself! Keep it going by continuing to set aside time every day to boost your own

mood. For 21 days, you developed a powerful HABIT—keep it going and happiness will

become your new way of life!

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by

achieving your goals.” Henry David Thoreau

Be sure to print out this script and follow the 21 day challenge – and don’t forget

to email me your progress or questions. I look forward to hearing from you!

Be Bold!! Be Fierce and stay the course! You Deserve It!

Instinct: Trust Yourself VOE Episode 16

Have you in the past or are currently struggling with trusting your instincts?

Whether or not you should leave your job and pursue what you’re truly passionate

about? Like starting a new business venture, establishing a non-profit organization,

investing in yourself by earning a degree or obtaining a certification in your field? Well,

that’s exactly what I’m going to help you with on this week’s show, where you’ll receive

biblical and practical advice to stir your soul and move your forward to say “YES!” to

fulfilling your passion by trusting your instinct!

Hi and welcome back to “A Woman’s Heart” podcast show, on the TRUE Conversations

Network, I’m your host Edna Howard, Founder of Voices of Encouragement, an

organization designed to empower women.

You can learn more about True conversations network at www.true-conversations.com

and more about Voices of Encouragement at www.voicesofencouragment.com.

Thank you for joining me to hear another empowering message. Think of me as your

Chief Encouragement Officer, as we explore together the power of trusting our

instincts. Have you in the past or are currently struggling with trusting your instincts?

Whether or not you should leave your job and pursue what you’re truly passionate

about? Like starting a new business venture, establishing a non-profit organization,

investing in yourself by earning a degree or obtaining a certification in your field? Well,

that’s exactly what I’m going to help you with on this week’s show, where you’ll receive

biblical and practical advice to stir your soul and move your forward to say “YES!” to

fulfilling your passion by trusting your instinct!

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspective; delving into God’s Word for

encouragement and wisdom. I look to scripture for guidance in how to increase my

faith, to make it bigger than my fears and strengthen my confidence.

The following two scriptures tie in beautifully with this podcast’s message:

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to

harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)

and

“The Spirit of the Lord will rest on him—

the Spirit of wisdom and of understanding,

the Spirit of counsel and of might,

the Spirit of the knowledge and fear of the Lord.” Isaiah 11:2

We should always remember that God’s power and strength will never diminish. He is

never too tired or too busy to listen and help us. His power is our source of confidence.

So, when you experience set-backs, and you can’t take another step, and your plans

aren’t working out - just remember this… you can call on God and He will renew your

strength and give you fresh faith. Allow your confidence in God to lead you to trust Him

and trust yourself

What is Instinct? Instinct is a natural or inherent aptitude, impulse, or capacity.

Best-selling author, T.D. Jakes defines the word ‘instinct’ in his book “Instinct The Power

To Unleash Your Inborn Drive” like this:

“Our instincts are the treasure maps for our soul’s satisfaction. Following our

instincts can make the crucial distinction between what we are good at – our

vocation or skill set – and what we are good for – the fulfillment of our purposeful

potential. He goes further to say that when you’re truly engaged with your life’s

calling, whether in the boutique, the banquet hall, or the boardroom, you rely on

something that cannot be taught”, “INSTINCT”. When harnessed, refined, and

heeded, our instincts can provide the key to unlocking our most productive, most

satisfying, most joyful lives”.

To be truly successful at anything we set out to do requires FAITH, discipline, hard

work, perseverance, tenacity, will, courage, focus, and “INSTINCT”. I am going to share

with you some guidelines for listening to that still small voice inside you that tells you

what you are doing is right no matter what others may be saying. YOU WILL LEARN

THAT WHEN MAKING A DECISION – IT IS BETTER TO LOOK WITHIN AND GO ON

INSTINCT then to rely solely on what the outside world is telling you.

Managing life requires vigilance, dedication, and commitment. It is your responsibility to

manifest your dreams and goals to come to fruition, and your instincts can help move

you forward. It is up to you to cultivate that dream that God placed in your heart.

Follow your instinct and let it drive you forward to success. Yes, Instinct allows you to

trust yourself – if you can’t trust yourself then who can you trust?

Are you ready to see if you are in tune with your instincts? Are you ready to know more?

Are you ready to pursue the steps to stay aligned with your gut soul instinct? Said

differently, are you ready to listen to yourself for yourself?

Before we get started, I have three questions to ask you first. If you can, put me on

pause and grab a piece of paper and a pen; you may want to write these down for

further reflection.

1. What decision or goal has your instinct led you to?

2. Do you trust yourself when making a critical decision?

3. After making a decision do you second guess yourself?

These thought-provoking questions are designed to help you discern whether or not you

are trusting your gut instinct to help you do that thing you say want to do. Remember

that promise you made yourself last week, yesterday or even today. (Did you trust

yourself enough to follow through?)

Let me encourage you today that whatever is on your heart or whatever you have

promised yourself that you will complete. Get your game face on and trust your instinct

in helping your make that goal or dream come to pass. YOU CAN DO IT, I believe in

you.

On today’s show I would like to share with you 4 Steps that I found in a blog, written by

Liz Funk in November 2017titled: “To Help You Trust Your Instincts”. Please note that I

have tweaked them just a little to fit the Voices of Encouragement Podcast format.

Hana Ayoub, a professional development coach says: “We spend most of our

workdays in our outer world. We’re interacting with our team members and clients. We

don’t have enough time in our inner world where we can reflect on those experiences

and listen to what our gut might have to say”.

Melody Wilding, a licensed therapist, and professor ask us the questions: “Why is

trusting your gut so powerful? Because your gut has been cataloging a whole lot of

information for as long as you’ve been alive. “Trusting your gut instinct is trusting the

collection of all your subconscious experiences.

I want you to really think of all the time and mental energy that can be conserved by not

having to overthink or overanalyze your next move. Just trust your “INSTINCT”

Before I step you through those four steps… I want to share my favorite quote from

Mark Twain that gets me motivated:

“The secret to getting ahead is getting started”.

So, let’s get started!

But before I do, let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out loud to

myself every morning gets me excited and keeps me moving forward with my personal

goal of growing Voices of Encouragement to empower all women.

AFFIRMATION

I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed this position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator He chose this

career for me

So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believe extreme success if our only fate

And as break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

Know idea is what you have

Cause I’m supercharged I’m highly powered

I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

The 4 Steps “To Help You Trust Your Instincts” are as follows:

1. Carve Out Time to Reflect

2. Give Yourself Constraints

3. Be Aware of Your Feelings

4. List Every Time Your Gut Instinct Served You

Carve Out Time To Reflect: After a meeting or interaction that requires a decision on

your part, give yourself mental space to reflect. Instead of moving to the next task at

hand, take a walk around the block. Spend time alone. Even if it’s just a few minutes.

Depending on the seriousness of the decision, you may have to sleep on it and make a

decision tomorrow. Start building responses in your conversations, when a decision

requires you to take time to think and contemplate. Such as “Give me a day to marinate,

I’ll get back with you tomorrow.” Or “You’ve presented some great courses of actions,

please give me a week and I will circle back with you with my final decision.”

You have to create space to listen to what your gut is saying. That’s why people say

they get their best ideas in the shower, or while conducting a yoga practice or during a

neighborhood run. Give yourself permission to think things through, you deserve the live

your best life, and that starts with making sound decisions.

Give Yourself Constraints: This is for those who over analyze. Every time you

have a big decision or tough choice to make, give yourself a half hour window to make

it. At the end of that half hour, you’re going to have to use your instinct.

This forces you to be more instinctive. Do you find yourself saying “should I or should I

not?”; if so ask yourself according to who?’ This will make you think about the pressure

you are putting on yourself. The ‘shoulds’ help people tune in to when they’re not

listening to their instinct.

Be Aware of Your Feelings: Take the time to develop an awareness of how you feel

during work situation. Do a body scan of what’s going on in you. You may think, “I feel

nervous right now”, or “I feel like I’m not sure what’s coming next”. Use those skills of

emotional labeling to get in touch with what your instinct might be saying to you.

List Every Time Your Gut Instinct Served You: Being instinctive isn’t simply an innate

trait; it’s a quality that increases or decreases given how much we practice doing it well.

Take the time to list all the times you trusted your gut and whether the outcome was

favorable.

By taking time to go through this exercise, you’ll see, when you trusted your instinct.

Allows you time to reflect and see if you felt good about the decision you made. Your

instinct starts getting better at doing what’s right for you. And as similar situations arise

you begin to rely on your instinct, you realize you had this instinct before, and it’s that

much stronger. It gets sharper and more reactive. Then, when you experience positive

outcomes, it creates a positive feedback loop. With time, you can comfortably defer

more and more of your decision-making to your gut instinct.

TD Jake’s reminds us “If we don’t’ discover our passions, purpose, and power then we

will pursue the roles assigned by other people’s scripts.”

Said differently, you will be following someone else direction for your life. Now you can’t

allow someone else to tell you how to live out your dreams. Only you should determine

that course of direction.

Be Bold!! Be Fierce and stay the course! You Deserve It!

Call To Action To live your best remarkable life, it is critical to take consistent action in

spite of our life challenges. Promise yourself today that you are going to push yourself

to rely on your instinct when pursuing your passion, goals, and dreams. I Believe in

You!

Thanks so much for listening to the show this week.

If you have enjoyed our time together, please share this podcast or tell a friend about it.

Mark your calendars for the upcoming Voices of Encouragements Women’s

Empowerment Workshop scheduled for Saturday, October 13 th (VOE will be celebrating

our one-year anniversary of the VOE Woman’s Empowerment Breakfast series. For

more information email me at Voemetoday@gmail.com.

Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive

Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:1 “Walk worthy of the calling with which you

were called.”

Leap Afraid (Reboot) VOE Episode 15


Have you in the past or are currently struggling with taking that “leap of faith”? Like leaving an unfulfilling job to pursue what you really love or starting a new business venture for for example. Well that’s exactly what I’m going to help you with on this week’s show, where you’ll receive biblical and practical advice to propel you forward to say “YES!” to fulfilling your purpose with passion!

Hi and welcome back to “A Woman’s Heart” podcast show, on the TRUE Conversations Network, I’m your host Edna Howard, Founder of Voices of Encouragement, an organization designed to empower women.

You can learn more about True conversations network at: www.true-conversations.com and more about Voices of Encouragement at: www.voicesofencouragment.com.

I’m so excited you decided you to join me for another empowering message. Think of me as your Chief Encouragement Officer, as I guide your through this episode of “Leap Afraid”. Have you in the past or are currently struggling with taking that “leap of faith”? Like leaving an unfulling job to pursue what you really love or starting a new business venture for for example. Well that’s exactly what I’m going to help you with on this week’s show, where you’ll receive biblical and practical advice to propel you forward to say “YES!” to fulfilling your purpose with passion!

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspective; delving into God’s Word for encouragement and wisdom.  I look to scripture for guidance in how to increase my faith, to make it bigger than my fears and strengthen my confidence.

Scripture tells us in Isaiah 40:31 (NIV) “but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not  faint.”

We should always remember that God’s power and strength will never diminish. He is never too tired or too busy to help and listen to us.  His power is our source of confidence. So, when you experience soul-crushing anxiety, and you can’t take another step, and your plans aren’t working out - just remember this… you can call on God and He will renew your strength and give you fresh faith.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Are you ready to “Leap Afraid”? Are you ready to know more? Are you ready to pursue living out your purpose and passion? Let’s get started!

I have just a couple of questions to ask you first.  If you can, put me on pause and grab a piece of paper and a pen; you may want to write these down for further reflection.

1.    What would it mean to you, to be able to accomplish your God-given purpose and passion? Picture yourself living that vision. What would it feel like?

2.    Do you let what people think about you, prevent you, from living out your purpose and passion?

3.    What are you afraid of?

4.    What is really holding you back?

These thought-provoking questions are designed to get you thinking about what it will take to get you going in the right direction to “LEAP AFRAID”.

Said differently, no matter how scared you are and worried about what people are going to say about you - you should “do it anyway”. Leap anyway and gather your courage on the way down.  I promise you God will give you either a  firm foundation  to stand on or wings to soar like an eagle. So, ask yourself, what do I have to lose?

On a personal note, standing up Voices of Encouragement was scary because I kept asking myself the “What Ifs” questions – you know those questions we run over and over in our heads about all the things that could prevent us from moving forward: “What if not enough women register to cover the cost for the first empowerment workshop?” or “What if someone says something negative about what VOE is trying to accomplish?” and on and on.  But guess what?  I did it anyway – “I leaped afraid”. Now, I’m not saying that I have conquered all the “what ifs”, but I can say that I just keep doing it anyway and God keeps blessing VOE every step of the way. 

I earnestly believe that God will keep blessing VOE if I keep seeking His wisdom on what Speakers should present at future events, and who should serve as the Mistress of Ceremonies – all this is a vision God placed in my heart and as nervous as I was I “leaped afraid”.  I operate out of complete surrender to God knowing that He will guide my footsteps all along the way, and that is enough.

Ok so now that you heard a little bit of my personal testimony about “Leaping Afraid” let me share with you the four themes  we will explore on this PODCAST:

·      Pursuing your Purpose and Passion

·      What’s holding you back?

·      Why not you?

·      The next steps

Mark Twain said, “The secret to getting ahead is getting started”.

So, let’s get started!

But before I do let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out loud to myself every morning gets me excited and keeps moving forward with my personal goal of growing Voices of Encouragement to empower all women. 

AFFIRMATION

I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed this position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator He chose this career for me

So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believe extreme success if our only fate

And as break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

Know idea is what you have

Cause I’m supercharged I’m highly powered

I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

 

PURSUING YOUR PURPOSE/PASSION

To pursue your purpose and passion you will need to get laser-focused on what it is God is calling you to do.  You’re probably thinking, “well Edna, I don’t know because I’m good at so many things”.  This is a wonderful problem to have, however, to become great at one thing doors you never knew existed will open to you.

I encourage you to conduct this exercise at your convenience in the near future. Go to a quiet place with absolutely no distractions. Now, think about what you know you are good at, and how amazing you feel when you are doing it.  You know your superpower, don’t be shy “OWN IT”– for me, its my spiritual gift of encouragement – which I use every day, starting with my family (especially my daughters), my church family, girlfriends, colleagues/clients at work, and the work I accomplish with Voice of Encouragement.

Many people will never live out their purpose and passion because they are so concerned about what other people will think or say.  They end up stuck in that “people pleasing trap” which unfortunately prevents them from operating in thier true excellence; downplaying theiry gifts and talents because they’re afraid they might offend someone.

If you truly want to live out your purpose and passion you will need to be confident in your skills and compentencies and get comfortable with being uncomfortable, venture boldy outside your comfort zone on a consistent basis. Inevitable, you will experience amazing results and outcomes.

Let’s remember what scripture says in Matthew 5:16: “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”

To pursue your purpose and passion you will need to have your own “Board of Directors” made up of three types of people:

1.    Inspired – these are the people who you aspire to be more like (they will become the wind beneath your wings to help you soar)

2.    Excited – these are the people that empower you with their words of encouragement and push you to keep going

3.    Grateful – these are the people who remind you of your blessing and how far you have come

OK, think about who you have in your life that fall into these categories, and if you don’t, it’s your responsibility to work on getting these types of people in your life.  These people become a lifeline on the days you need to hear a word of encouragement (you can pick the phone or send a text and they will give you that encouraging word you need to keep going).  Remember, these people complement your vision because it is up to YOU to move on your purpose and passion.

God does His greatest work through people with grateful and trusting hearts. So rather than just planning and evaluating, practice trusting and thanking Him continually and “Leap to Action”!. This paradigm shift can revolutionize your life and help you “Leap Afraid”.

 

WHAT’S HOLDING YOU BACK

I want to share with you a phrase I picked up from one of my favorite motivational speakers Les Brown:

 “Someone else’s opinion of you doesn’t have to become your reality”

Said differently “what other people think about you is none of your business”

Or, my personal favorite that I like to say to myself:

“Never let anyone tell you what you can’t do especially if they haven’t done it.”

Unfortunately, we live in a world where we are told more about our limitations than our potential.  After years of hearing and believing “you can’t”, we can end up being sucked into these little black holes of absuridity, merely existing instead of truly living. Is that you? No worries… keep listening – because I have additional insights for your consideration.

The world is designed to take the wind from beneath your wings, but you have to be vigilant and stay fully woke (not in a fog). I encourage you to stay alert so you can run with endurance and not hold back on your God-given purpose and passion.

Sometimes, we unconsciously are Edging God Out (which also just happens to spell EGO). When we do this, we are holding ourselves back because we get caught up in “perfection” before we take a chance to make a change in our lives.  NEWSFLASH - there is no perfect time to begin walking into your God-given purpose and destiny. You just have to “Leap Afraid”!

Take time to take a personal inventory of your gifts and talents and improve upon your strengths and manage your weaknesses.  Become the best at doing the one thing you know that sets you apart from the crowd. 

Ask yourself

Is there an area in my life I am allowing to challenge me to get better?

Is there an area of my life that brings me fear?  If so, tell yourself to “Do the thing that you fear the most and the death of fear is certain”.

You will be empowered to move forward when you:

·      Take a risk and gain insight

·      Take responsibility and achieve freedom

·      Take initiative and create opportunity

·      Take your own counsel and discover the wisdom

I encourage you to “Leap Afraid”!

WHY NOT YOU?

I want you to ask yourself a question.

Are you interested or are you committed? 

If you’re interested that’s great but being committed to pursuing your purpose and passion means that you are willing to do it no matter what.  Yes, that means you are willing to “Leap Afraid”!

Many times, when we are working toward doing something we feel is our purpose/passion we don’t always see how far we have come and how many lives we have or can impact because we had the courage to just show up.

Said differently, “you can’t always see the picture when you’re in the frame”.

I ask you “Who is writing your story?” 

Is it your friends and family or boss or significant other? 

Harley Davidson said, “When writing the story of your life don’t let anyone else hold the pen.”

So be Bold!! As a matter of fact, start caring around an extra pair of sunshades so when your light shines super bright you can hand that extra pair of shades to the people around you so they won’t get blinded by your light.

Seriously I encourage you not to dim down your light – remember that everything you do sets you up for your next best season. “Leap Afraid”!


 

NEXT STEPS

An original quote I tell myself, “Don’t get distracted by the sideshows in life  keep your focus on the main event.”

 What are the sideshows?  They are distractions such as:

·      What other people think about us

·      Comparing ourselves to other people (women seem to this a lot)

·      Competing against other people (we should find our best and outdo our own best and compete against ourselves)

·      Wanting what other people have (you don’t know what that person had to go through to get where they are)

To move forward into your next steps ask yourself these 3 questions:

1.    Where have I been?

2.    Why am I here?

3.    Where am I going?

I encourage you this day to take action and move forward. 

Another one of my favorite motivational speakers is Lisa Nichols  says we should “Give notice and not ask for permission” I interpret this to mean that we should not ask for permission to walk in our God-given destiny we should listen to God’s direction and move forward to “Leap Afraid” and we can gather our courage on the way down.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Question from the listening audience:

A week ago, I sent out an email blast asking VOE listerners to send me questions they’d like me to try to answer.

Thank you Schinnell Leak, Founder of Extra-Ordinary Birthdays, for submitting the following question:

How can a woman live her life with a greater degree of intention?

Schinnell, that is such a great question. Now let me see if I can give you a definitive answer.

I think a woman can live her life with a greater degree of intention by doing the following three things:

·      Let GO!

·      Look Forward

·      Lean In

Let GO!

How often do we hold on to comfortable routines that negatively impact our life? (autopilot) One critical step to re-directing our lives is to let go of needless worries, distractions or occupations that pull us towards mindlessly existing (being on autopilot) in life instead of intentionally living life. Letting go is incredibly difficult. It means uprooting what we know for what we don’t know (Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable).  That is a scary trade, which is why many stay safe in routines instead of exploring new options. However, by letting go we give room for the opportunity to become more fully ourselves.  Deciding to get off autopilot will ultimately leave you with the freedom to craft an intentional life.

Look Forward!

Keeping our mind and energy focused on our goals is a critical component of living with intention. Even if we are not in an ideal place or job, looking forward and having faith in what lies ahead is invaluable. Aristotle said that “It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light”. Looking forward means solidifying an inward intention for our lives—a sense that even in small actions and choices, we are moving towards our goal. Only a goal that excites the core of who you are and moves you into action is big enough to make you  

Lean In

Leaning on the Grace of God and grounding ourselves in prayer will help us lean into any situation we have going on in our lives. Being vulnerable to God with our struggles and most authentic desires allows us to release them and entrust them to another. “Throw your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you.” – Psalm 55:22. To ‘sustain’ means to support and provide peace. Often living with intention and deep purpose is trying and deeply exhausting. It requires the best of ourselves and all our faculties. Prayer rejuvenates and replenishes our hope and revitalizes our dreams, while also keeping us grounded and authentic. Spending time in prayer each day gives us a structure in which we can set the intention of our day and week, a way to intentionally begin each day in Grace.

We only have one life… what we do to cultivate and mold it will shape our future. Living with intention is a daily choice and effort that often produces an abundance of peace, joy, and gratification.

 

 

 

 

 

Thanks so much for listening in.

If you have enjoyed our time together please share this podcast, or tell a friend about it.  Mark your calendars for the upcoming Voices of Encouragements Women’s Empowerment Workshop scheduled for Saturday, October 13th.. For more information email me at Voemetoday@gmail.com.

 

Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive

Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:1 “Walk worthy of the calling with which you were called”

 

Walking In Your Purpose - with Extraordinary Birthdays founder Schinnell Leake

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