Instinct: Trust Yourself VOE Episode 16

Have you in the past or are currently struggling with trusting your instincts?

Whether or not you should leave your job and pursue what you’re truly passionate

about? Like starting a new business venture, establishing a non-profit organization,

investing in yourself by earning a degree or obtaining a certification in your field? Well,

that’s exactly what I’m going to help you with on this week’s show, where you’ll receive

biblical and practical advice to stir your soul and move your forward to say “YES!” to

fulfilling your passion by trusting your instinct!

Hi and welcome back to “A Woman’s Heart” podcast show, on the TRUE Conversations

Network, I’m your host Edna Howard, Founder of Voices of Encouragement, an

organization designed to empower women.

You can learn more about True conversations network at www.true-conversations.com

and more about Voices of Encouragement at www.voicesofencouragment.com.

Thank you for joining me to hear another empowering message. Think of me as your

Chief Encouragement Officer, as we explore together the power of trusting our

instincts. Have you in the past or are currently struggling with trusting your instincts?

Whether or not you should leave your job and pursue what you’re truly passionate

about? Like starting a new business venture, establishing a non-profit organization,

investing in yourself by earning a degree or obtaining a certification in your field? Well,

that’s exactly what I’m going to help you with on this week’s show, where you’ll receive

biblical and practical advice to stir your soul and move your forward to say “YES!” to

fulfilling your passion by trusting your instinct!

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspective; delving into God’s Word for

encouragement and wisdom. I look to scripture for guidance in how to increase my

faith, to make it bigger than my fears and strengthen my confidence.

The following two scriptures tie in beautifully with this podcast’s message:

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to

harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)

and

“The Spirit of the Lord will rest on him—

the Spirit of wisdom and of understanding,

the Spirit of counsel and of might,

the Spirit of the knowledge and fear of the Lord.” Isaiah 11:2

We should always remember that God’s power and strength will never diminish. He is

never too tired or too busy to listen and help us. His power is our source of confidence.

So, when you experience set-backs, and you can’t take another step, and your plans

aren’t working out - just remember this… you can call on God and He will renew your

strength and give you fresh faith. Allow your confidence in God to lead you to trust Him

and trust yourself

What is Instinct? Instinct is a natural or inherent aptitude, impulse, or capacity.

Best-selling author, T.D. Jakes defines the word ‘instinct’ in his book “Instinct The Power

To Unleash Your Inborn Drive” like this:

“Our instincts are the treasure maps for our soul’s satisfaction. Following our

instincts can make the crucial distinction between what we are good at – our

vocation or skill set – and what we are good for – the fulfillment of our purposeful

potential. He goes further to say that when you’re truly engaged with your life’s

calling, whether in the boutique, the banquet hall, or the boardroom, you rely on

something that cannot be taught”, “INSTINCT”. When harnessed, refined, and

heeded, our instincts can provide the key to unlocking our most productive, most

satisfying, most joyful lives”.

To be truly successful at anything we set out to do requires FAITH, discipline, hard

work, perseverance, tenacity, will, courage, focus, and “INSTINCT”. I am going to share

with you some guidelines for listening to that still small voice inside you that tells you

what you are doing is right no matter what others may be saying. YOU WILL LEARN

THAT WHEN MAKING A DECISION – IT IS BETTER TO LOOK WITHIN AND GO ON

INSTINCT then to rely solely on what the outside world is telling you.

Managing life requires vigilance, dedication, and commitment. It is your responsibility to

manifest your dreams and goals to come to fruition, and your instincts can help move

you forward. It is up to you to cultivate that dream that God placed in your heart.

Follow your instinct and let it drive you forward to success. Yes, Instinct allows you to

trust yourself – if you can’t trust yourself then who can you trust?

Are you ready to see if you are in tune with your instincts? Are you ready to know more?

Are you ready to pursue the steps to stay aligned with your gut soul instinct? Said

differently, are you ready to listen to yourself for yourself?

Before we get started, I have three questions to ask you first. If you can, put me on

pause and grab a piece of paper and a pen; you may want to write these down for

further reflection.

1. What decision or goal has your instinct led you to?

2. Do you trust yourself when making a critical decision?

3. After making a decision do you second guess yourself?

These thought-provoking questions are designed to help you discern whether or not you

are trusting your gut instinct to help you do that thing you say want to do. Remember

that promise you made yourself last week, yesterday or even today. (Did you trust

yourself enough to follow through?)

Let me encourage you today that whatever is on your heart or whatever you have

promised yourself that you will complete. Get your game face on and trust your instinct

in helping your make that goal or dream come to pass. YOU CAN DO IT, I believe in

you.

On today’s show I would like to share with you 4 Steps that I found in a blog, written by

Liz Funk in November 2017titled: “To Help You Trust Your Instincts”. Please note that I

have tweaked them just a little to fit the Voices of Encouragement Podcast format.

Hana Ayoub, a professional development coach says: “We spend most of our

workdays in our outer world. We’re interacting with our team members and clients. We

don’t have enough time in our inner world where we can reflect on those experiences

and listen to what our gut might have to say”.

Melody Wilding, a licensed therapist, and professor ask us the questions: “Why is

trusting your gut so powerful? Because your gut has been cataloging a whole lot of

information for as long as you’ve been alive. “Trusting your gut instinct is trusting the

collection of all your subconscious experiences.

I want you to really think of all the time and mental energy that can be conserved by not

having to overthink or overanalyze your next move. Just trust your “INSTINCT”

Before I step you through those four steps… I want to share my favorite quote from

Mark Twain that gets me motivated:

“The secret to getting ahead is getting started”.

So, let’s get started!

But before I do, let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out loud to

myself every morning gets me excited and keeps me moving forward with my personal

goal of growing Voices of Encouragement to empower all women.

AFFIRMATION

I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed this position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator He chose this

career for me

So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believe extreme success if our only fate

And as break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

Know idea is what you have

Cause I’m supercharged I’m highly powered

I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

The 4 Steps “To Help You Trust Your Instincts” are as follows:

1. Carve Out Time to Reflect

2. Give Yourself Constraints

3. Be Aware of Your Feelings

4. List Every Time Your Gut Instinct Served You

Carve Out Time To Reflect: After a meeting or interaction that requires a decision on

your part, give yourself mental space to reflect. Instead of moving to the next task at

hand, take a walk around the block. Spend time alone. Even if it’s just a few minutes.

Depending on the seriousness of the decision, you may have to sleep on it and make a

decision tomorrow. Start building responses in your conversations, when a decision

requires you to take time to think and contemplate. Such as “Give me a day to marinate,

I’ll get back with you tomorrow.” Or “You’ve presented some great courses of actions,

please give me a week and I will circle back with you with my final decision.”

You have to create space to listen to what your gut is saying. That’s why people say

they get their best ideas in the shower, or while conducting a yoga practice or during a

neighborhood run. Give yourself permission to think things through, you deserve the live

your best life, and that starts with making sound decisions.

Give Yourself Constraints: This is for those who over analyze. Every time you

have a big decision or tough choice to make, give yourself a half hour window to make

it. At the end of that half hour, you’re going to have to use your instinct.

This forces you to be more instinctive. Do you find yourself saying “should I or should I

not?”; if so ask yourself according to who?’ This will make you think about the pressure

you are putting on yourself. The ‘shoulds’ help people tune in to when they’re not

listening to their instinct.

Be Aware of Your Feelings: Take the time to develop an awareness of how you feel

during work situation. Do a body scan of what’s going on in you. You may think, “I feel

nervous right now”, or “I feel like I’m not sure what’s coming next”. Use those skills of

emotional labeling to get in touch with what your instinct might be saying to you.

List Every Time Your Gut Instinct Served You: Being instinctive isn’t simply an innate

trait; it’s a quality that increases or decreases given how much we practice doing it well.

Take the time to list all the times you trusted your gut and whether the outcome was

favorable.

By taking time to go through this exercise, you’ll see, when you trusted your instinct.

Allows you time to reflect and see if you felt good about the decision you made. Your

instinct starts getting better at doing what’s right for you. And as similar situations arise

you begin to rely on your instinct, you realize you had this instinct before, and it’s that

much stronger. It gets sharper and more reactive. Then, when you experience positive

outcomes, it creates a positive feedback loop. With time, you can comfortably defer

more and more of your decision-making to your gut instinct.

TD Jake’s reminds us “If we don’t’ discover our passions, purpose, and power then we

will pursue the roles assigned by other people’s scripts.”

Said differently, you will be following someone else direction for your life. Now you can’t

allow someone else to tell you how to live out your dreams. Only you should determine

that course of direction.

Be Bold!! Be Fierce and stay the course! You Deserve It!

Call To Action To live your best remarkable life, it is critical to take consistent action in

spite of our life challenges. Promise yourself today that you are going to push yourself

to rely on your instinct when pursuing your passion, goals, and dreams. I Believe in

You!

Thanks so much for listening to the show this week.

If you have enjoyed our time together, please share this podcast or tell a friend about it.

Mark your calendars for the upcoming Voices of Encouragements Women’s

Empowerment Workshop scheduled for Saturday, October 13 th (VOE will be celebrating

our one-year anniversary of the VOE Woman’s Empowerment Breakfast series. For

more information email me at Voemetoday@gmail.com.

Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive

Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:1 “Walk worthy of the calling with which you

were called.”