VOE Episode 2: Dreaming Big

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Hi and welcome back to a “A Woman’s Heart” podcast show, on the TRUE Conversations Network, I’m your host Edna Howard, Chief Encouragement Officer and Founder of Voices of Encouragement, an organization designed to empower women.

You can learn more about True conversations network at:

www.true-conversations.com and more about Voices of Encouragement by emailing me at voemetoday@gmail.com

I am so excited you decided to take the time out of your busy schedule to listen to another empowering message.  Today I am going to walk you through the process of Dreaming Big and then focusing small by setting a goal and breaking it down into achievable chunks.  

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspective:  For me this is a critical part of achieving any goal in life.  First, thing I do is surrender my goal to God, I encourage you to do the same.  When you surrender your goals to God it allows His plan for your life to flourish. Scripture tells us in Proverbs 3:5 to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not unto your own understanding but acknowledge Him in all your ways and He will direct your path”

and Proverbs 16:3 tells us to “Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts will be established”.

So, I want to encourage you to commit all your endeavors to God and watch Him work.  Sometimes the goals we want to achieve has come from God planting a thought in our hearts/minds so that he can fulfill his purpose through us.

The thing to remember is when God calls us, we must follow or we will miss our life’s purpose.

I love a quote I read in TD Jakes book

 “Instinct: The Power to Unleash your inborn Drive”:

“You must be true to your purpose, doggedly tenacious about your passion, and never lose sight of your center which is in Christ Jesus”

The conversation today is all about goal setting but first let me set the stage by talking to you about motivation: A couple of quick questions to get you thinking.

1.    What gets you up in the morning?

2.    What keeps you going during the day?

3.    What motivates you to do what you do?

Now If you say Edna, “money gets me up in the morning”, then I might ask you how many times do you hit your alarm. 

On a serious note - you might have a problem pulling yourself out of bed. Because money is an indirect motivator it’s not the actual money that motivates you – but what you can do with it that’s motivating.

So, I encourage you to get in touch with the direct sources of what motivates you? 

Consider what is important and worthwhile by asking yourself these two questions: (put me on pause and get some paper and a pen)

1.    Is what I’m doing helping me learn and grow personally?

2.    Is what I’m doing helping me contribute to something meaningful and greater than myself? (Are you plugged in to something greater than yourself?)

If you can get in touch with your underlying internal motivation for your goals, tasks, or jobs, it will feel less like work and more like your life’s purpose. 

Now that you understand a little more ab

Let me share with you more about the goal setting:  The topics I will review are:

·      What is a Goal?

·      Why should we Set Goals?

·      Setting a Goal?

·      Six Parts of a Goal.

·      Breaking down a SMART Goal?

·      Can a Goal be Negative?

·      Why some People Don’t Set Goals.

Mark Twain said, “The secret to getting ahead is getting started”

So, let’s get started.

But before I do let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out loud to myself every morning gets me excited and keeps moving forward with my personal goal of growing Voices of Encouragement to empower all women.  AFFIRMATION

What is a Goal? Webster dictionary says that a goal is:

 “The object of a person's ambition or effort; an aim or desired result”

Why set Goals? Why should we set goals?

·      Writing down a goal can dramatically increase the likelihood you will achieve it

·      When goals are set, things happen

·      Goals help us to feel good about yourself

·      Goals can provide attitude adjustments

·      Goals establish self-discipline and motivation

·      Goals give you direction and purpose

·      Goals create good habits and patterns to follow

·      Setting a goal will eliminate others from controlling your life.  Set a goal to discipline yourself.  “If you don’t I promise you other people will” be in control of the direction of your life” 

Setting A Goal: (Discipline is the gateway to freedom)

1.    Decide exactly what you want (BE VERY SPECIFIC)

2.    Aim High – It should give you butterflies and stretch your limits

3.    Create visuals: Make a goals poster, vision board, or just write it down

4.    Break your goal down - into days, weeks, months, and a year

5.    Write out your goal and talk about it to those who will support your goals (not your negative family and friends who will not support it – you know the folks I’m talking about)

6.    Believe it will Happen: Throw your heart in and everything else will follow

7.    Focus on your goal daily.  Did you know if a goal is not focused on for three days, it’s as if it never existed?

8.    Quitting is not an option (You can adjust and tweak your goal but don’t you quit)

Six Parts of a GOAL:

1.    WOW:  Excitement of a goal

2.    HOW:   Plan to Achieve a goal

3.    NOW:   JUST DO IT!!!

4.    OUCH:  Do it anyway

5.    VOW:   Commitment to reach goal

6.    POW:   The victory

Now that you have the six parts of a goal, let me break down the SMART goal theory.  You probably heard of this theory before, but you haven’t heard it broken down by Edna E. Howard, just saying.

S – Specific:  A specific goal has a much greater chance of being accomplished than a general goal.

To set a specific goal you must answer the six “W” questions:

Who:    Wo is involved?

What:  What do you want to accomplish?

Where: Identify a place/location.

When:  Establish a time frame.

Which:  Identify requirements and constraints – What obstacles will you have to overcome? Who will you have to become to get the work done?”

Why:   Specific reasons, purpose or benefits of accomplishing the goal.

Example:  A general goal would be to say, “I need to get in shape” But a specific goal would be to say” I need to join a health club and workout 4 days a week” – You see the difference.

Next letter is M – Measurable

Measuring your goals help you to establish concrete criteria for measuring progress toward the attainment of each goal you set.

There are couples of things that can happen when you measure your progress:

1.    You stay on track

2.    You reach your target dates

3.    You get to experience the exhilaration of achievement that spurs you on to continued effort required to reach your goal

How can you determine if your goal is measurable?

·      How much?  How much time etc.

·      How many? How many steps will it take

The letter A – Attainable

Attainable: When you identify goals that are most important to you, you begin to figure out ways you can make them come true.

·      You will begin to develop the attitudes, abilities, and skills

·      You develop a financial plan to achieve it

·      You begin opportunities to bring yourself closer to the achievement of your goals

The letter R - Realistic          

Realistic: To be realistic, a goal must represent an objective toward which you are both willing and able to work.

Your goal is realistic if you truly BELIEVE that it can be accomplished.

Please - don’t fall into that trap of saying you are going to accomplish something but then don’t put any action behind making it happen for yourself – that’s not a goal that is a wish.

Last letter is T – Timely

Timely: A goal should be grounded within a time frame – said differently, you should give your goal a date – when a time frame is tied to your goal:

·      You have a sense of urgency

·      It helps you focus on the date of completion

An example, if you say to me someday I will start a business, this won’t work – newsflash “someday is not a day of the week.  But if you anchor it within a timeframe, and say by “By May 1st, 2018” I am going to write my business plan, you’ve set you unconscious mind into motion to begin working on the goal.

Can Goals be Negative?  The answer to that questions is Yes. 

Goals can be negative if they…

1.    Are too big – example, I want to lose 10 pounds in two days – is that realistic (reality check – you didn’t gain the extra pounds in two days so isn’t fair to say that you won’t lose it in two days – now two months or more to me is a more achievable goal – but you will have to be willing to do the work (eating healthy and developing a work out regiment)

2.    If you believe luck is necessary to arrive at your destination (newsflash setting and meeting a goal will take tremendous focus, hard work, persistence, and determination)

3.    If you set your goal by comparing yourself against other’s accomplishments – (God has a unique and wonderful plan for your life, so I encourage you to run your race)

4.     If you are doing it for someone else. (If you set a goal for someone else and not for yourself – you can quickly lose momentum)

Reason Most People Do Not Set Goals:

1.    They don’t believe they can do it

2.    They are not sold on the benefits

3.    They feel it’s safer not to

4.    They fear, commitment, failure or success

5.    They have a poor attitude and focus

6.    They don’t won’t to the do the work -

Words of encouragement:  Never Let what you can’t do prevent you from what you can do” 

“You Define for People what is Possible”

You may be wondering what happens if you don’t meet your goal? 

Well the good news is you can readjust your time line at any point in the process. The key thing to remember is that your goals don’t change but your date/ and or timeline can.

One last thing I want to leave with you.  Something you can say to yourself when you wake up in morning:

“I will never give up! God is on my side, He loves me and He is helping me and He will see me through”

Hey thanks so much for listening in.

If you have enjoyed our time together please share this podcast, or tell a friend about it.  Mark your calendars for the upcoming Voices of Encouragements Women’s Empowerment Workshop scheduled for Saturday, June 9th. For more information email me at: Voemetoday@gmail.com.

 

Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive

Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:11 “Walk worthy of the calling with which you were called”