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Digital Detox Rediscovering You VOE Ep 20

Have you in the past or are currently spending too much of your valuable

time on social media, your cell phone, laptop, or binge watching Netflix? If you answer is yes to

any of these you may want to consider a digital detox (this is a cleansing of your mind from

technology). On this week’s show I’m going to step you through how to achieve a digital detox.

This can help you reconnect with those around you and rediscover mindfulness in your life.

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With the Holiday season upon us it is important that we give our full attention to the ones we

love. Your time and attention is one of the most valuable gifts you can give. In the last couple of

months I find myself in conversations with friends who feel like “life is going by so fast”. My

theory for feeling this way is that technology is stealing our time and making us feel anxious.

Not to worry, I am here to guide you through a digital detox, to help you slow down a little bit so

you can “Rediscover You”.

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspecte. I like to draw fron the word of God to

receive encouragement and wisdom. I look to scripture for guidance in how to increase my

faith, to make it bigger than my fears and strengthen my confidence.

Scripture tells us in Philippians 4:6 “ Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and

supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.  And the peace of God,

which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Additionally, Isaiah 40:31 says, “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They

will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint.”

We should always remember that God’s power and strength will never diminish. He is never too

tired or too busy to help and listen to us. His power is our source of confidence. So, when you

experience soul-crushing anxiety, and you can’t take another step, and your plans aren’t working

out - just remember this, you can call on God and He will renew your strength and give you fresh


As a Technologist I have to work extra hard to put the phone down and get off the computer so I

can rest my eyes and my brain. I strive to educate myself, so I conducted research in this area to

understand why we are suspectable to becoming hooked or additcted to technology. It all starts

in our head; there are two chemicals that make our body and brain react:

1. Dompamine: Dopamine was "discovered" in 1958 by Arvid Carlsson and Nils-Ake

Hillarp at the National Heart Institute of Sweden. Dopamine is created in various parts of

the brain and is critical in all sorts of brain functions, including thinking,

moving, sleeping, mood, attention, motivation, seeking and reward.

2. Cortisol: Think of cortisol as nature’s built-in alarm system. It’s your body’s main

stress hormone. It works with certain parts of your brain to control your mood,

motivation, and fear.

David Greenfield, Ph.D., founder of the Center for Internet and Technology Addiction. says

that “Smartphones put us in an ever-increasing state of hyper-vigilance, where we’re always

feeling compelled to check our calls, texts, social media alerts, and email. This keeps the

adrenals constantly activated and cortisol levels elevated.”

Susan Weinschenk Ph.D. wrote an article titled, “Why We're All Addicted to Texts, Twitter

and Google” and explains Dopamine makes you addicted to seeking information in an endless

loop. In this article, she asks the following questions:

Do you ever feel like you are addicted to email or twitter or texting?

Do you find it difficult to ignore your email if you see that there are messages in your


Do you think that if you could ignore your incoming email or messages or smartphone

buzzing you might actually be able to get something done at work?

She goes on to state - the alluring draw of the Internet and our smartphones alerts,

beeps, buzzes, or notifications has us consumed and distracted.

These questions really got my attention, because I found myself answering YES. So I am taking

the digital detox challenge this holiday season. I want to get back to “Rediscovering Me” and I

want to encourage you to take the challenge with me and “Rediscover You”.

Does a digital detox seem daunting? Consider instituting the following four habits to prepare for

a full blown digital detox to “Rediscover You”:

1. Remove distractions: Use the four quadrant theory—your four quandrants are

family, friends, health, and work. Anything that is not essential to your four quadrants should be

removed. That means no alerts, beeps, buzzes, or notifications of any kind, perhaps with the

exception of voicemails for emergencies.

2. Don't glamorize busyness: "I'm so busy!" are really just our attempts to avoid making hard

choices about how we live our lives. Staying busy is easier than taking time to pursue what

would really make us happy. As a Technologist, I know first hand how the Internet makes it so

easy to be "busy" indefinitely. So be careful not to glamorize busyness. By doing so, you can

start to think more clearly about how you are choosing to spend your time.

3. Always ask "why" when you pull out your phone: Sure, our smartphones are handy tools to

find answers, keep in touch with friends, or even to check the time. But often, more often than

we think, we use our phones to distract, to avoid, or to ignore whatever is happening right in

front of us. Keeping us disconnected and distractred those around us.

4. Lastly, periodically, fast from electronics or have a digital detox: You heard me! Conduct

a “fast” from your digital devices. Spend a weekend or an entire week durig the holiday season

with no electronic devices. It might feel scary at first, but it is an excellent opportunity to

reconnect with ourselves and others.

Are your ready to take on a digital detox?

Mark Twain said, “The secret to getting ahead is getting started”.

So, let’s get started!

But before I do let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out loud to myself

every morning gets me excited and keeps moving forward with my personal goal of growing

Voices of Encouragement to empower all women.


I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed this position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator He chose this career for


So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believe extreme success if our only fate

And as break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

Know idea is what you have

Cause I’m supercharged I’m highly powered

I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

I read that in this digital world, it’s easy to find yourself logged in, online, posting, commenting,

and responding almost every minute of every day. Whether it’s out of necessity or just because

you don’t want to miss out on anything that’s going on (FOMO – fear of missing out), you can

find yourself feeling digitally overloaded. Do you want to take a break from all the emails, texts,

messages, comments, posts, and updates, but you do not know where to start? Its all good, we’re

about to explore the steps to digital freedom: you can do this if you plan, unplug, and make the

most of your time… then, you can ease back into the digital on your terms.

How to do a Digital Detox from

Motivate yourself. Deciding to do a digital detox can be a big decision. You may worry about

what you’ll miss by logging out. You might even wonder what you’ll do with your time. You

can do a digital detox if you remind yourself of all the good reasons why you should take this

time to log off and unplug.

 Make a list of three to five things you want to try to get done during your detox

time. For instance, you might write that you want to work in your garden, read a

good book, organize your closets, or catch up with old friends.

 Remind yourself of the benefits of the detox. For example, tell yourself, “I’ll feel

more relaxed, in tune with myself, and in tune with my family and friends.”

 Tell yourself that the detox will give you a break from some of the information

overload you may be feeling.

Choose when to detox. Although you may want to start your digital detox right now,

you should think about the timing of your detox first. Deciding to digitally disconnect

during peak work time-frames or around exams time if you are in school may not be

practical. Choose a time when you have fewer responsibilities and when there will be

less consequences for missing a message or two.

 Think about having your detox over a weekend, school break, or holiday;

you are less likely to receive important messages during those times.

 Look at your calendar and pick a time when you don’t have any upcoming

deadlines or important events; this way you won’t miss updates about


Think through the logistics. You may not realize all the ways in which you

depend on your smartphone and other devices in your day-to-day life. For

instance, if you use your phone as an alarm, do you have an alarm clock you can

use while you detox? If you want to listen to music during the detox, do you have a

radio? If you use your phone or computer for driving directions, do you have maps

so you won't get lost? Before your detox, try to note all the different ways in which

you rely on your devices and think of other ways to meet your needs.

 You may also need to think about how you will do this if your family is not

participating in the detox. What will you do if everyone is watching TV? Do you

have a digital-free area where you can retreat to read or work on a craft project?

How will you fill your time and avoid the temptation when other people are using

their devices?

Decide how long to detox. In general, a digital detox will last about one to two

days. This gives you time to connect with your friends and family and do some of the

things you’ve been meaning to do. But, if you have a lot of obligations, this might be too

long. Deciding how long to detox will help you plan for it and anticipate any issues that

may come up during your detox time.

 Consider your responsibilities and obligations. How long can you digitally detox

without getting behind in your work?

 Think about people that depend on you. Ask yourself if there is anything you would

need to do online for them during this time.

Give advance notice. If you are including work or school in your digital detox, you may

need to let others know what you are doing. This way they can let you know what’s

going on and you won’t miss messages about major deadlines or other important


 Do you have a landline so that someone can call and reach you in case of an

emergency? You might also want to let family members know that it's okay to

show up unannounced if there is an emergency.

 Ask someone to contact you with important messages if your digital detox is going

to last more than 12 hours. For instance, say something like, “Could you call me

on my landline if we have a schedule update at work?”

 If you primarily communicate with people via text, email, or messaging, you may

want to let them know what’s going on.

Log out of social networks. Nothing can ruin a digital detox or any peaceful time like

an electronic device that’s beeping, binging, and chirping every two minutes. Staying

logged in will make it easy for you to quickly turn on your device, especially if you have

widgets, and check your social networking updates. Logging out and turning off all

notifications for social media can help you stick with your detox.

 You don’t need to disable your account, but you can log out of the app on your

device; you can log back in once your digital detox is over.

 Make sure you know your login information before you log out of the app.

 Turn off your alerts and notifications if you can’t or don’t want to log out of your


Put your electronic devices out of reach. When your device is right by your side you

may be tempted to check it to make sure you aren’t missing anything. Keeping your

phone, tablet, or laptop at a distance will make it easier for you to do a digital detox.

 Remember the adage “out of sight, out of mind.”; put your device in a closet,

drawer, or somewhere out of sight.

 If you need to, ask a family member or close friend to keep your device for you

during your digital detox.

Help someone. One great way to make the most of your digital detox is to spend some

of your time doing something to help someone else. It doesn’t have to be a big thing like

repainting their house, but you can take an hour or two to do something that benefits

someone else.

 Volunteer for a cause or organization that you support or attend a charitable event

in your neighborhood.

 Offer to go grocery shopping for your dad, walk your neighbor’s dog, or help your

friend wash her car.

Meditate and relax. During a digital detox is a great time to practice relaxation techniques and

calming strategies. When your detox is over, these strategies will help you release stress and

tension when you begin to feel digital overload or stress in general.

 Try spending just five to 10 minutes meditating. Get comfortable and try to focus on your

breathing. If you find your thoughts drifting, gently bring them back to your breathing.

 Practice deep breathing techniques. Slowly inhale into your belly, hold it, and then slowly

exhale. Repeat these steps for a few breaths.

Learn something new. One of the challenges of doing a digital detox is boredom. You

may be so used to being online that you don’t know what to do with yourself. Why not

use your time during your digital detox to try a new activity or learn a new skill?

 Read a book or article about a topic that interests you; you can even go to the

library to look at a hard copy instead of a digital one.

 Take a class or lesson to learn a new skill or talent; for instance, take a

gymnastics class or sign up for foreign language lessons.

Socialize with loved ones. It can be easy to let social networking and messaging take

the place of face-to-face or even phone interaction. You can make the most of your

digital detox by spending at least some of your time with your family and friends. You

can use this time to catch up, talk, or just hang out.

 Give them your undivided attention when you’re together. You don’t have your

electronic device distracting you, so look them in the eyes and show them you’re


 Invite them somewhere or accept their invitations to go out; catch a movie, grab

some coffee, or play some basketball.

Log in one app at a time. Ease yourself back into the digital world. This way you won’t

become overwhelmed by the information and entertainment. It will also give you the

opportunity to think about which social networks, apps, and games and actually want

and need to use.

 Start by logging back into your primary email account. Prioritize your messages

and respond to those you need to.

 Delete any messages that aren’t important and take a few minutes to unsubscribe

to any newsletters or updates you don’t really need.

Limit yourself. After your detox, try setting limits for your digital time. This way you can

avoid getting caught up in the never-ending cycle of emails, alerts, updates, and posts.

 Try checking and responding to emails only in the morning (between the hours of

9 and 10am, for instance) and at the end of the day (from 4:30 to 5pm).

 Turn your notifications off on social media apps and sites; this way you won’t be

tempted to check every time your electronic device beeps.

 Limit the time you spend on social networking sites; for example, you might set a

limit of 15 minutes for being on Twitter or Snapchat.

Do a mini detox. You will get the most benefit out of your digital detox if you make it

something that you do more than once. You don’t have to do a full detox for a day or

more. Doing a mini detox, even for just an hour or two, might help you briefly recharge

and relax.

 Consider the hour before bed as a non-digital time; put your electronic devices on

vibrate and turn any non-essential alerts off.

 Have a regular weekend detox for a few hours; for example, you might want to

spend every Sunday morning free of your electronics.

Well there you have it – practical recommendations to assist you in conducting a

digital detox in order to “Rediscover You”!

Thanks so much for listening in.

If you have enjoyed our time together please share this podcast, or tell a friend about it.

Mark your calendars for the upcoming Voices of Encouragements Women’s

Empowerment Workshop scheduled for Saturday, January 26, 2019. For more

information email me at

You can learn more about True conversations network at:

and more about Voices of Encouragement at:

Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive

Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:1 “Walk worthy of the calling with which you were you called.”

Power of Positivity VOE Episode 19

Hi and welcome back to “A Woman’s Heart” podcast show, on the True

Conversations Network. I’m your host Edna Howard, founder of Voices of

Encouragement, an organization designed to empower women.

You can learn more about True conversations network at: and more about Voices of Encouragement at

I’m so excited you decided to take the time out of your busy schedule to

listen to another empowering message. Today, I am going to talk with you

about “The Power of Positive Thinking. Think of me as your Chief

Encouragement Officer for the next few minutes, as I share with you

positive information and tools to help you tap the power within you to

promote positive thinking.

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspective. The first thing I

do is to look to scripture for guidance and wisdom on how to think, act and


Psalm 19:14 “May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my

heart be pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.”

Proverbs 23:7 “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he"

So, you might ask what does it mean as a man thinketh in his heart so is

he? Well the truth is, each person's thinking and core identity is determined

by and reflects the conditions of their heart.

Said differently, what you think about you bring about – so you should think

about some great stuff.

And from a more philosophical perspective: Mahatma Gandhi said

“A man (woman) is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he


Here’s a question for you: Did you know that our thoughts determine the

quality of our lives?

The podcast show today is about thinking positive but first let me set

the stage by talking to you about attitude: I’ve got three questions to get

you thinking. Put me on pause and grab a piece of paper and a pen, cause

you’re going to want to write these downs.

1. Do you have a positive mental attitude?

2. Is your attitude positive or negative the majority of the day?

3. In what ways could you be sabotaging your positive mental


These thought provoking questions are designed to help you assess your

attitude; is it more positive or negative? Your attitude is your window to the


So, if you have a positive attitude you will see the good and positive but if

your attitude is negative (stinking thinking) then how you operate and

engage with other people is going to be negative.

Think of your attitude as the mental filter through which you experience the

world around you.

Something I read in a book titled, “Attitude is Everything” written by Jeff

Keller, he says “some people see the world through the filter of optimism

(the glass being half full) while others see life though a filter of pessimism

(the glass being half empty).

He gives some examples to explain the difference between a positive and

negative attitude:

 The person with the negative attitude thinks “I CAN’T”

 The person with the positive attitude thinks “I CAN”

 The person with the negative attitude dwells on problems

 The person with the positive attitude concentrates on solutions

 The person with the negative attitude finds fault with others

 The person with the positive attitude looks for the good in


 The person with the negative focuses on what’s missing

 The person with the positive attitude counts his or her blessings

So… are you more of a optimist or a pessimist?

Remember our “Attitudes are a secret power working 24 hours a day,

for good or bad” – So… what’s your attitude going to be?

One thing I know for sure is if you are complaining you’re slowly developing

a negative attitude. It starts small… and then before you know it, you’ll find

yourself swimming in negativity. Personally, I think that the number one joy

stealer is complaining. Why? Because it causes you to focus on all the

negative things that are going on in your life - and that my friend, will most

certainly affect your attitude.

I would like to share with you a couple of gold nuggets a good friend of

mine Nikea Ray shared with me; just a little something to help you

remember not to complain. You can say this to yourself when you feel a

negative attitude developing in your spirit - It simply says:

“I choose to be thankful for everything that comes my way. I realize

that complaining is draining. Complaining is counterproductive and

will not get me anywhere I’m trying to go. I won’t complain. I will look

at every situation and find a lesson in it. I will look at every situation

and find a blessing in it. My complaining days are over.”

So, I encourage you to choose the right mental attitude. Recognize in

yourself whether you have a positive or negative attitude.

And from a faith perspective You can speak words that please God: Psalm

19:14 “May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be

pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.”

Here’s an example of a prayer requesting God’s assistance to help you

improve your attitude and thoughts:

“Lord, help me to not think negative thoughts or say critical words

about anyone. Forgive me for any time I have done that, for I know it

does not please You. Help me to be careful about the words I speak

so that I won’t say anything that hurts someone. Help me to treat

others with kindness, patience, and love. Enable me to build people

up and not tear them down. I know that words matter and You have

said in your Word that “Those who guide their lips preserve their

lives” (Proverbs 13:3). Teach me to think before I speak so that I say

words that are honest and caring and sensitive.”

Now that you understand a little more about mental attitude, let me share

with you the power of thinking positive: The topics I will review are:

 What is positive thinking?

 Motivational Channels to positive thinking,

 And how positive thinking can enhance your life?

Mark Twain said, “The secret to getting ahead is getting started”

So, let’s get started.

But before I do let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out

loud to myself every morning gets me excited and keeps moving forward

with my personal goal of growing Voices of Encouragement to empower all



I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed my position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator He

chose this career for me

So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are

on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believing extreme success is our only fate

And as we break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

No idea is what you have, cause I’m super charged I’m highly

powered I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

What is positive thinking? The positive inner voice (avoiding the


Making a conscious deliberate effort to continually believe in your abilities.

What are the motivational channels to positive thinking?

1. Books

2. Music

3. Places

4. Motivational Tapes

5. Workshop/conferences


7. Inspirational Movies

How positive thinking can improve your life:

The use of positive thinking can create a powerful life for you: There are a

few things you need to be aware of:

1. Realize that the only person that can make you happy is YOU!

2. Heighten your level of awareness – hang out with eagles so you can

fly high (those who are on the move and can motivate you to get on

the move.

3. Choose power over pain.

I have a little exercise I want you to do. OK, image if you will a chart: I’ll

call it the “Pain to Power Chart”

Take out a piece a paper and draw a line down the middle put an arrow

on each side and now write PAIN on the left side and POWER on the

right side


PAIN (most of us can place ourselves somewhere in the middle) POWER

OK – Now let me give you some pain to power vocabulary and you can use

the chart to place the pain vocab on the left side of the page and power

vocab on the right side of the page.

Changing your vocabulary: Pain-to-Power Vocabulary


I can’t ---------------------------------------------------------------------I won’t

I should ------------------------------------------------------------------I could

It’s not my fault ---------------------------------------------------------I’m totally


It’s a problem ---------------------------------------------------------- It’s an


Life is a struggle ------------------------------------------------------ Life is an


Now you have a tool to use when deciding on vocabulary to help you think

more positive.

Next let’s talk about…

How can you activate your positive thinking?

 You make a choice whether you will be in control of your life or if life

will control you. Said differently, you can choose to seize the day or

let the day seize you.

 Your attitude determines whether you are a success or a failure at

any task (if you think you CAN you CAN and if you think you CAN’T

your right)

 Use every experience as an opportunity.

Make a commitment to think positive:

 Draw from the higher power from within (God) and make a

commitment today to think positive

 Make your life a best seller and become the most positive person

you know

 Happiness is a journey not a destination

Positive thoughts Lead to Enthusiasm:

 Enthusiasm derives from the two Greek words En Theos, meaning

“inspired by God”; our lives need to be inspired, infused, filled

afresh with Gods goodness every day.

 You may not have somebody patting you on the back and

cheering you on – and your day may not be filled with

extraordinary events, but you can still give it everything you got

with enthusiasm and be an example for others.

I would like to recommend a Day-To-Day Action Plan for your


1. Fill the first 10 minutes to an hour of your day with inspiration:

books (devotionals), spend time with God, motivational music,

and motivational YouTube or tapes (I really suggest not

listening to negative news and going on Facebook)

2. Don’t hang out around TOXIC negative people. (They will sap

your energy). Have I ever shared with you the 30, 15, 10, 5, 1

minute people theory? Here it goes…

The 30, 15, 10 minute people: these are the inspirational

people you want to be around (these folks talk about events not

people, you feel good and empowered just to being in their

space- they lift you up! You feel amazing when you leave their

presence). Then there are the 5 and 1-minute people (these are

the folks who make you feel down and who never really have

anything good to say about others and they make you feel bad

about yourself and situations. (These folks are the ones you

must say hi to and keep it moving because you know they don’t

have anything good to say to you or about others.)

3. Don’t give your attention to your immediate disasters (look to a

positive future/Hold the VISION).

4. Lose the Fear of What other people think about YOU!! This is

such a big one – if your fear of what people think about you is

keeping you from taking bold strokes in the world, then you are

allowing the fear of what others think of you control your life.

News flash! You serve God not man. Remember: No weapon

formed against you will prosper, you are more than a conquer,

and greater is He who lives in you then He that is in the world.

Thanks so much for listening in.

If you have enjoyed our time together please share this podcast, or tell a

friend about it. Mark your calendars for the upcoming Voices of

Encouragement Women’s Empowerment Workshop, scheduled for

Saturday, January 26, 2019. For more information email me at:

Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive

Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:1 “Walk worthy of the calling

with which you were called”