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Digital Detox Rediscovering You VOE Ep 20

Have you in the past or are currently spending too much of your valuable

time on social media, your cell phone, laptop, or binge watching Netflix? If you answer is yes to

any of these you may want to consider a digital detox (this is a cleansing of your mind from

technology). On this week’s show I’m going to step you through how to achieve a digital detox.

This can help you reconnect with those around you and rediscover mindfulness in your life.

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With the Holiday season upon us it is important that we give our full attention to the ones we

love. Your time and attention is one of the most valuable gifts you can give. In the last couple of

months I find myself in conversations with friends who feel like “life is going by so fast”. My

theory for feeling this way is that technology is stealing our time and making us feel anxious.

Not to worry, I am here to guide you through a digital detox, to help you slow down a little bit so

you can “Rediscover You”.

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspecte. I like to draw fron the word of God to

receive encouragement and wisdom. I look to scripture for guidance in how to increase my

faith, to make it bigger than my fears and strengthen my confidence.

Scripture tells us in Philippians 4:6 “ Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and

supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.  And the peace of God,

which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Additionally, Isaiah 40:31 says, “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They

will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint.”

We should always remember that God’s power and strength will never diminish. He is never too

tired or too busy to help and listen to us. His power is our source of confidence. So, when you

experience soul-crushing anxiety, and you can’t take another step, and your plans aren’t working

out - just remember this, you can call on God and He will renew your strength and give you fresh


As a Technologist I have to work extra hard to put the phone down and get off the computer so I

can rest my eyes and my brain. I strive to educate myself, so I conducted research in this area to

understand why we are suspectable to becoming hooked or additcted to technology. It all starts

in our head; there are two chemicals that make our body and brain react:

1. Dompamine: Dopamine was "discovered" in 1958 by Arvid Carlsson and Nils-Ake

Hillarp at the National Heart Institute of Sweden. Dopamine is created in various parts of

the brain and is critical in all sorts of brain functions, including thinking,

moving, sleeping, mood, attention, motivation, seeking and reward.

2. Cortisol: Think of cortisol as nature’s built-in alarm system. It’s your body’s main

stress hormone. It works with certain parts of your brain to control your mood,

motivation, and fear.

David Greenfield, Ph.D., founder of the Center for Internet and Technology Addiction. says

that “Smartphones put us in an ever-increasing state of hyper-vigilance, where we’re always

feeling compelled to check our calls, texts, social media alerts, and email. This keeps the

adrenals constantly activated and cortisol levels elevated.”

Susan Weinschenk Ph.D. wrote an article titled, “Why We're All Addicted to Texts, Twitter

and Google” and explains Dopamine makes you addicted to seeking information in an endless

loop. In this article, she asks the following questions:

Do you ever feel like you are addicted to email or twitter or texting?

Do you find it difficult to ignore your email if you see that there are messages in your


Do you think that if you could ignore your incoming email or messages or smartphone

buzzing you might actually be able to get something done at work?

She goes on to state - the alluring draw of the Internet and our smartphones alerts,

beeps, buzzes, or notifications has us consumed and distracted.

These questions really got my attention, because I found myself answering YES. So I am taking

the digital detox challenge this holiday season. I want to get back to “Rediscovering Me” and I

want to encourage you to take the challenge with me and “Rediscover You”.

Does a digital detox seem daunting? Consider instituting the following four habits to prepare for

a full blown digital detox to “Rediscover You”:

1. Remove distractions: Use the four quadrant theory—your four quandrants are

family, friends, health, and work. Anything that is not essential to your four quadrants should be

removed. That means no alerts, beeps, buzzes, or notifications of any kind, perhaps with the

exception of voicemails for emergencies.

2. Don't glamorize busyness: "I'm so busy!" are really just our attempts to avoid making hard

choices about how we live our lives. Staying busy is easier than taking time to pursue what

would really make us happy. As a Technologist, I know first hand how the Internet makes it so

easy to be "busy" indefinitely. So be careful not to glamorize busyness. By doing so, you can

start to think more clearly about how you are choosing to spend your time.

3. Always ask "why" when you pull out your phone: Sure, our smartphones are handy tools to

find answers, keep in touch with friends, or even to check the time. But often, more often than

we think, we use our phones to distract, to avoid, or to ignore whatever is happening right in

front of us. Keeping us disconnected and distractred those around us.

4. Lastly, periodically, fast from electronics or have a digital detox: You heard me! Conduct

a “fast” from your digital devices. Spend a weekend or an entire week durig the holiday season

with no electronic devices. It might feel scary at first, but it is an excellent opportunity to

reconnect with ourselves and others.

Are your ready to take on a digital detox?

Mark Twain said, “The secret to getting ahead is getting started”.

So, let’s get started!

But before I do let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying it out loud to myself

every morning gets me excited and keeps moving forward with my personal goal of growing

Voices of Encouragement to empower all women.


I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed this position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator He chose this career for


So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believe extreme success if our only fate

And as break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

Know idea is what you have

Cause I’m supercharged I’m highly powered

I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

I read that in this digital world, it’s easy to find yourself logged in, online, posting, commenting,

and responding almost every minute of every day. Whether it’s out of necessity or just because

you don’t want to miss out on anything that’s going on (FOMO – fear of missing out), you can

find yourself feeling digitally overloaded. Do you want to take a break from all the emails, texts,

messages, comments, posts, and updates, but you do not know where to start? Its all good, we’re

about to explore the steps to digital freedom: you can do this if you plan, unplug, and make the

most of your time… then, you can ease back into the digital on your terms.

How to do a Digital Detox from

Motivate yourself. Deciding to do a digital detox can be a big decision. You may worry about

what you’ll miss by logging out. You might even wonder what you’ll do with your time. You

can do a digital detox if you remind yourself of all the good reasons why you should take this

time to log off and unplug.

 Make a list of three to five things you want to try to get done during your detox

time. For instance, you might write that you want to work in your garden, read a

good book, organize your closets, or catch up with old friends.

 Remind yourself of the benefits of the detox. For example, tell yourself, “I’ll feel

more relaxed, in tune with myself, and in tune with my family and friends.”

 Tell yourself that the detox will give you a break from some of the information

overload you may be feeling.

Choose when to detox. Although you may want to start your digital detox right now,

you should think about the timing of your detox first. Deciding to digitally disconnect

during peak work time-frames or around exams time if you are in school may not be

practical. Choose a time when you have fewer responsibilities and when there will be

less consequences for missing a message or two.

 Think about having your detox over a weekend, school break, or holiday;

you are less likely to receive important messages during those times.

 Look at your calendar and pick a time when you don’t have any upcoming

deadlines or important events; this way you won’t miss updates about


Think through the logistics. You may not realize all the ways in which you

depend on your smartphone and other devices in your day-to-day life. For

instance, if you use your phone as an alarm, do you have an alarm clock you can

use while you detox? If you want to listen to music during the detox, do you have a

radio? If you use your phone or computer for driving directions, do you have maps

so you won't get lost? Before your detox, try to note all the different ways in which

you rely on your devices and think of other ways to meet your needs.

 You may also need to think about how you will do this if your family is not

participating in the detox. What will you do if everyone is watching TV? Do you

have a digital-free area where you can retreat to read or work on a craft project?

How will you fill your time and avoid the temptation when other people are using

their devices?

Decide how long to detox. In general, a digital detox will last about one to two

days. This gives you time to connect with your friends and family and do some of the

things you’ve been meaning to do. But, if you have a lot of obligations, this might be too

long. Deciding how long to detox will help you plan for it and anticipate any issues that

may come up during your detox time.

 Consider your responsibilities and obligations. How long can you digitally detox

without getting behind in your work?

 Think about people that depend on you. Ask yourself if there is anything you would

need to do online for them during this time.

Give advance notice. If you are including work or school in your digital detox, you may

need to let others know what you are doing. This way they can let you know what’s

going on and you won’t miss messages about major deadlines or other important


 Do you have a landline so that someone can call and reach you in case of an

emergency? You might also want to let family members know that it's okay to

show up unannounced if there is an emergency.

 Ask someone to contact you with important messages if your digital detox is going

to last more than 12 hours. For instance, say something like, “Could you call me

on my landline if we have a schedule update at work?”

 If you primarily communicate with people via text, email, or messaging, you may

want to let them know what’s going on.

Log out of social networks. Nothing can ruin a digital detox or any peaceful time like

an electronic device that’s beeping, binging, and chirping every two minutes. Staying

logged in will make it easy for you to quickly turn on your device, especially if you have

widgets, and check your social networking updates. Logging out and turning off all

notifications for social media can help you stick with your detox.

 You don’t need to disable your account, but you can log out of the app on your

device; you can log back in once your digital detox is over.

 Make sure you know your login information before you log out of the app.

 Turn off your alerts and notifications if you can’t or don’t want to log out of your


Put your electronic devices out of reach. When your device is right by your side you

may be tempted to check it to make sure you aren’t missing anything. Keeping your

phone, tablet, or laptop at a distance will make it easier for you to do a digital detox.

 Remember the adage “out of sight, out of mind.”; put your device in a closet,

drawer, or somewhere out of sight.

 If you need to, ask a family member or close friend to keep your device for you

during your digital detox.

Help someone. One great way to make the most of your digital detox is to spend some

of your time doing something to help someone else. It doesn’t have to be a big thing like

repainting their house, but you can take an hour or two to do something that benefits

someone else.

 Volunteer for a cause or organization that you support or attend a charitable event

in your neighborhood.

 Offer to go grocery shopping for your dad, walk your neighbor’s dog, or help your

friend wash her car.

Meditate and relax. During a digital detox is a great time to practice relaxation techniques and

calming strategies. When your detox is over, these strategies will help you release stress and

tension when you begin to feel digital overload or stress in general.

 Try spending just five to 10 minutes meditating. Get comfortable and try to focus on your

breathing. If you find your thoughts drifting, gently bring them back to your breathing.

 Practice deep breathing techniques. Slowly inhale into your belly, hold it, and then slowly

exhale. Repeat these steps for a few breaths.

Learn something new. One of the challenges of doing a digital detox is boredom. You

may be so used to being online that you don’t know what to do with yourself. Why not

use your time during your digital detox to try a new activity or learn a new skill?

 Read a book or article about a topic that interests you; you can even go to the

library to look at a hard copy instead of a digital one.

 Take a class or lesson to learn a new skill or talent; for instance, take a

gymnastics class or sign up for foreign language lessons.

Socialize with loved ones. It can be easy to let social networking and messaging take

the place of face-to-face or even phone interaction. You can make the most of your

digital detox by spending at least some of your time with your family and friends. You

can use this time to catch up, talk, or just hang out.

 Give them your undivided attention when you’re together. You don’t have your

electronic device distracting you, so look them in the eyes and show them you’re


 Invite them somewhere or accept their invitations to go out; catch a movie, grab

some coffee, or play some basketball.

Log in one app at a time. Ease yourself back into the digital world. This way you won’t

become overwhelmed by the information and entertainment. It will also give you the

opportunity to think about which social networks, apps, and games and actually want

and need to use.

 Start by logging back into your primary email account. Prioritize your messages

and respond to those you need to.

 Delete any messages that aren’t important and take a few minutes to unsubscribe

to any newsletters or updates you don’t really need.

Limit yourself. After your detox, try setting limits for your digital time. This way you can

avoid getting caught up in the never-ending cycle of emails, alerts, updates, and posts.

 Try checking and responding to emails only in the morning (between the hours of

9 and 10am, for instance) and at the end of the day (from 4:30 to 5pm).

 Turn your notifications off on social media apps and sites; this way you won’t be

tempted to check every time your electronic device beeps.

 Limit the time you spend on social networking sites; for example, you might set a

limit of 15 minutes for being on Twitter or Snapchat.

Do a mini detox. You will get the most benefit out of your digital detox if you make it

something that you do more than once. You don’t have to do a full detox for a day or

more. Doing a mini detox, even for just an hour or two, might help you briefly recharge

and relax.

 Consider the hour before bed as a non-digital time; put your electronic devices on

vibrate and turn any non-essential alerts off.

 Have a regular weekend detox for a few hours; for example, you might want to

spend every Sunday morning free of your electronics.

Well there you have it – practical recommendations to assist you in conducting a

digital detox in order to “Rediscover You”!

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Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive

Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:1 “Walk worthy of the calling with which you were you called.”