Quiet the Noise (Chatterbox)

We have teach ourselves how to quiet the noise in our heads so that we can think the right thoughts!

Hi and welcome back to “A Woman’s Heart” podcast show, on the

TRUE Conversations Network, I’m your host Edna Howard, Founder of

Voices of Encouragement, an organization designed to empower


I’m so excited you are joining me for another empowering message.

This year I am shining the spotlight on women in leadership (both in

business and in the community) Women who are visionaries, thought

leaders and trail blazers). In all aspects of MOTIVATIONAL

LEADERSHIP!! We have teach ourselves how to quiet the noise in

our heads so that we can think the right thoughts!

Think of me as your Chief Encouragement Officer exploring the topic

on “Quieting the chatterbox”.

I’m a woman of faith so I’ll start from the Faith perspective; God’s Word

is my source for encouragement and wisdom and I look to scripture for

guidance in how to increase my faith, to make it bigger than my fears

and strengthen my confidence.

Romans 12:2 (NIV) “   Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but

be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to

test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect


The conversation today is all about how to “Quiet the Noise in your

Mind (the Chatterbox)”. I know I am not alone in my desire to quiet

those unwanted thoughts that randomly run through my mind, so if you

want some tips on how to keep that chatterbox from taking over your

thoughts keep listening. By the time this podcast ends, you will be well

one your way to condition your mind in becoming a “lean-mean-

thinking-machine” with the strategies I will share with you today. Are

you ready to “Quiet Your Chatterbox”!?!

What do I mean by ‘Chatterbox’?

‘The Chatterbox’ is internal dialogues that constantly run through our


Self-talk, also referred to as the chatterbox is what we repeat to

ourselves – our mental background music. Most of us are not even aware

of our self-talk; yet it has a powerful influence on our behavior, our

stress, our motivation and our actions.  This inner voice chatterbox

practically never ceases talking. It’s that voice inside your head that

says, “I can’t do it… I’ll fail… I am a loser… I am not skinny enough”

or “You can’t afford it… You will never be rich and on and on”.

Here’s the deal, if your inner chatter is negative then you need to STOP

the voice going on inside your head and replace it with positive thoughts

like “I can do this!”, “I will do my best!”, “I look good!”, “I have what it

takes”, “I am thankful for God’s provision!”. You need to do this over

and over again until your negative mind chatter is replaced with positive

thoughts. “Quiet the Noise”

The Buddha, who coined the term “Monkey Brain” some two and half

millennia ago, defined it best when he said; ‘Just as a monkey swinging

through the trees, grabs one branch and lets it go only to seize another,

so too, that which is called a thought, mind or consciousness arises and

disappears continually both day and night.’

When we stop the inner chattering, we will then see that most things

become attainable and scripture tells us that all things are possible.

This could be an ongoing battle for many people, but I’m here today to

help you overcome that battle and “Quiet the Noise”.

As author and motivational speaker Brian Tracey says:

"Perhaps the most powerful influence on your attitude and personality is

what you say to yourself and believe. It is not what happens to you, but

how you respond internally to what happens to you, that determines your

thoughts and feeling and, ultimately, your actions. By controlling your

inner dialogue, or "self-talk," you can begin to assert control over every

other dimension of your life."

When our minds are chattering, and we are talking to ourselves and not

to others we somehow drift off into the negative self-talk (which can

cause internal harm). We say that only crazy people talk to themselves,

but the truth is that we all talk to ourselves all day long, without even

knowing it. In fact, we have around 60,000 thoughts a day.

Now I’m sure you have caught yourself a time or two just speaking out

loud to yourself, I know I have but I have learned to tell myself that God

only wants what is best for me so I going to believe him for successful


The trick here is not that you talk to yourself but to listen to what you

are saying to yourself. Are you telling yourself you are not good enough

or you don’t have what it takes? Do you find yourself comparing

yourself to others’ accomplishments and lifestyles?

I honestly believe that social media has a lot to do with what shapes our

perception and perspective because it is designed to filter out everyone’s

amazing events in their lives and burn those images in our minds –

making us believe that everybody is living life like a “Rock Star”, when

in reality they have challenges and struggles just like you and I.


If you can put me on pause and grab a pen and paper and write

these down.

Ask yourself these questions:

 What are you thinking?

 What are you telling yourself?

 Where does this inner voice come from? 

These thought-provoking questions are meant to help you take action in

going in the right direction to “QUIET THAT NOISE”!

In researching this topic I discover some excellent advice from Dr.

Patrick Wanis. He is a Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior &

Relationship Expert. Dr. Patrick Wanis says:

“All those thoughts that make up the chatterbox are the result of

everything you have ever been told and that you accepted as true.

These thoughts and messages are the things you were told during

your childhood by your parents, family, peers and the media. They

can also be the result of events that occurred in your life or your

personal thoughts and fears.  

You may find that many of the things your parents told you as a

child are the very things you repeat to yourself all day long – often

without even knowing it. Some of these things you accepted as true

because you experienced them as a child, and children learn by

imitating. For example, if your parents worked hard to make their

money, you probably believe that only hard work leads to money,

yet others around you may seem to come into money easily.”

An additional tip from Dr. Wanis is that we should reprogram our Inner


He suggests that we change the messages we continually repeat to

ourselves all day long.  If you consistently and permanently change your

self-talk, your mind would direct you towards positive thoughts about

yourself. For example, if you are thinking, “I can’t do this” or “I’ll never

be able to make this goal happen” turn that stinking thinking to “Of

course I can be successful” or “I’m going to definitely make this

happen”. What you have just done – is become your own Chief

Encouragement Officer – priming your mind to think and act more


Mark Twain said, “The secret to getting ahead is getting started”; so let’s

get started!

But before I do let me share my personal affirmation with you – saying

it out loud to myself every morning gets me excited and keeps moving

forward with my personal goal of growing Voices of Encouragement to

empower all women.


I’m a powerful purpose driven woman on a mission

In 2017 I assumed this position

Thanking God for my direction and clarity, cause he’s my creator

He chose this career for me

So just sit back, step back, and watch me flow, cause VOE, we are

on the grow

We keep showing, suiting, stepping up to the plate

Believe extreme success if our only fate

And as break pass this invisible wall of fear

Let me keep real and be very clear

If you think you know you have no idea

Know idea is what you have

Cause I’m supercharged I’m highly powered

I’m bad to the bone the name is Edna E. Howard

You may ask yourself, so how do I change my inner voice and “QUIET

THAT NOISE”? Neuroscience tells us that, to be more productive and

creative, we need to give our brains a break. It's the quiet mind that

produces the best insights. But it's a challenge to take that sort of time

off in the midst of a busy day.

Today, I will review 3 easy strategies you can use to help quiet your

negative self-talk and steer your thoughts in the direction of a powerful,

positive state of mind. “QUIET THAT NOISE”

1. Practice Self-Love and Self-Care

2. Take Quick Meditations

3. Be Mindful


Make sure you take time out of your day for some self-love and

compassion toward yourself.

Power Tip: Develop a habit of setting aside time each day to show

yourself some love, no matter what. For example, I love to take hot

bubble baths (placing a candle in the bathroom) and putting on some

relaxing background music or sitting on my back deck, and even take

long walks in the park by myself to think good thoughts. These actions

may not seem important, but you’d be surprised just how much self-care

and self-love can put you in the right positive mindset and help you

control those negative random thoughts. “QUIET THE NOISE”


This is a powerful mental exercise with the potential to change the

physical structure of the brain.

Power Tip: If you commute via public transportation (or even if you're

a passenger in a car pool) use the time to close your eyes for 10 minutes.

If you drive, leave a little early, park, and spend 10 minutes in the car

before you walk into work. Choose a very specific image, such as a

waterfall, beach, or tree, and try to focus on it alone. If other thoughts

get in the way, gently push them aside. Do this once or twice per day.

The goal is to let your mind achieve a sense of relaxed awareness and

experience positive thoughts. “QUIET THE NOISE”


Mindfulness is about choosing to pay attention to the present moment in

a curious and nonjudgmental way. Mindfulness calls on us to notice

when our thoughts have drifted to the past or wandered into the future,

and when we are regretting, fantasizing, or worrying rather than

engaging with what is right in front of us. Each time we are able to step

away from the pinball game in our mind and focus on the present, we

give ourselves the best possible chance to make the best possible choice,

whatever that may be. “QUIET THE NOISE”

Power Tip: You can practice being mindful by consciously slowing

down your activities. Whatever character strength you are high in;

consider how you can use it to overcome what is getting in your way of

positive thoughts. For example, use your strength in gratitude when your

mind starts to wander a lot (expressing gratitude that you have a mind

and that you’re able to be aware when it wanders off!)  Use

your humility when discomfort arises in your body and curiosity when

your mind continues to wrap around worry.

Some folks may think that slowing things down is a “waste” of time. Far

from it. Doing things mindfully increases your productivity. How?

Because the mind stays quiet and precise. There is no interference from

the pointless mind chatter. “QUIET THE NOISE”.

Overcoming negative self-talk requires practice, effort and time; and it

starts with you. Awareness is the first step to managing your mind; next,

you must discern what actions you will take to reverse negative self-talk;

and lastly, be kind to yourself in your journey in quieting the noise.

Here is one question you can ask yourself – how would you feel if your

internal chatterbox went “live” for all the world to hear? When

bombarded with negativity, turn it around, pray for God’s Power,

believe in yourself, and live your best life!

Thanks so much for listening in.

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PLEASE Mark your calendars for the upcoming VOE Women’s Empowerment Workshop on

Saturday, September 28th ”Women of Worth – I am Enough”. For more information email

me at Voemetoday@gmail.com. You can learn more about True conversations network at

www.true-conversations.com and more about Voices of Encouragement at


Have a triple P Week: Powerful, Positive, and Productive

Until we meet again remember Ephesians 4:1 “Walk worthy of the calling with which you were called.